My ex. bf want to have sex ith me even though i am pregnant with his twins. seems to be some kind of turn on for him? i wont have sex unless i am dating someone should i make an exeption?he is the only guy i have ever had sex with or should i make hime ask me out again?i kinda have the urge to but dont now if i should wonder if its hormones i am 4 months and just starting to show and kinda feel sexy with my new curves? is this normal?hoping this might make him come back and help w/twins and support he is kinda heading in that direction by going to doctors w/me mabe this is extra push?we were broken up when i found out i as pregnant.
2006-07-13 09:51:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
or is this going to make on again of again relationship worse?
2006-07-13 09:51:57 · update #1
i still am in love with him
2006-07-13 09:58:28 · update #2
what more damage can he do, your already pregnant...might as well enjoy your time. i wouldn't count on him sticking around though, so be prepared to just say goodbye when your done..
2006-07-13 09:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by City slicker 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First off - your hormones are causing you to have irrational thoughts.
If your sperm donor ex boyfriend is only concerned about getting inside of you and you don't see anything wrong with this, then you need some help with your mental state.
He's using you.
All he's looking for is a place to deposit his sperm.
Now, it is normal for pregnant women to feel more aroused.
My wife certainly was when she was pregnant.
Of course, she was BEFORE and after she got pregnant...but even more so during that time.
Which brings up a point: is the ex boyfriend going to financially support your babies?
I'm not a fan of unwed mothers...but it is a fact of life...however, it takes two to make a baby and too many guys just "come-and-go", if you get my meaning.
Most guys cut and run after their chick gets preggo.
Good luck if you think he'll stick and stay.
Last question for you - are you really sure you are ready for this?
It doesn't matter if you two broke up when you found out you were preggo.
It sounds as if you're more concerned about letting the ex get some free tail than the health and well-being of future babies.
What exactly ARE your priorities over the next few months?
It's ALL about the babies.
Forget about the ex boyfriend.
2006-07-13 18:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children pull relationships apart, not together. Do not let him use you. I am in a similar situation. I am 20 weeks pregnant and my finacee and I just broke up about a month ago. The more you act like you do not want him and will not put up with his bull, the better you will be. Make him make the commitment to you FIRST!!! You should get this book called " Why Men Marry Bitches", it is from a well known author and will help you to be stronger through these emotional times. Men want what they can't have and if you are too nice to them, they walk all over you.
2006-07-13 16:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by chihuahuas2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, if you dont want to get hurt in the end, dont have sex with this guy. He sounds like he doesnt want to commit 100% to your unborn children because you two broke up. You cant let him come to you whenever he wants sex. And with your hormonal imbalance if he ends up dumping you again, you could become pretty depressed which would put strain on the baby's health. You have to think about whats best for your babies. If this man is going to help out, then he needs to do it because he wants to take part in his children's lives not because you two are hooking up again. If you two are going to get back together it will happen on its own and if it's not meant to be it will fall apart again. Right now, focus on your two little miracles that will soon come into your life. You have enough to worry about, you dont need man troubles on top of it. Congratulations on your pregnancy, I wish you all the best!
2006-07-13 16:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by latinalovekorea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it - I would make sure he is serious about helping out and being a good father - then if you feel his is serious and trying to be there for his children, then I would see what you are both thinking about the relationship. Good luck!
2006-07-13 16:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WILL BE OK FOR U TO DO IT SINCE YOU ARE CARRYING HIS CHILD. I DONT THINK ANOTHER MAN WOULD WONT TO HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE AND KNOW THAT THEY ARE PREGNANT. SOME DUDES MIGHT. YOUR EX PROBABLY WONT TO HAVE SEX BECAUSE WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT THE VAGINA IS MORE WET AND WARM. BUT IF YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE OR DONT KNOW IF ITS GOING TO MESS THINGS UP THEN DONT DO IT.
2006-07-13 17:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have sex with anyone if you are not married? Anyway either he gonna be there for you or he is not. A baby is not gonna keep a man anyway unless you are married.
2006-07-14 09:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Having sex with him will not make him want to get back together with you. Find a new man.
2006-07-13 16:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by Serena84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you because you're pregnant, and you want to sleep with him? NO!
You obviously still have feelings for him, he wants a hook up. Don't make it worse on yourself by sleeping with him again.
2006-07-13 16:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULDN'T DO IT BECAUSE THAT GIVES HIM THE OPPORTUNITY TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU WHEN HE WANTS TO. YOU ARE HIS BM ONLY. NOW YOU ARE PREGNANT WITH HIS KIDS, HE COULDN'T RESPECT YOU WHEN YOU TOLD HIM YOU WERE PREGNANT. HE'S NOT GOT TO RESPECT YOU. IF HE CARE HE WOULD HAVE NEVER BROKE THE RELATIONSHIP OFF BECAUSE OF YOU BEING PREGNANT.
2006-07-13 17:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Thompson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been broken up for 4 mths and he don't want you back he is only trying to make a booty call.
2006-07-13 16:58:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋