What do you think?

Question

when someone suspects another of say...secrets etc...and they know in their heart of hearts there is no reason. Do you think this stems from ..A guilty concience? if you do , or have any kind of useful , intelligent answer ( not just trying to earn points..lol) please share would like to read it. Thank you for your time : )

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Answer 1

I think your talking about someone cheating on you right if so, then if you feel that you are being cheated on nine chances out of ten it's true. If your not talking about cheating but really secrets then if you feel that secrets are being kept from you, go with your gut feeling. what's the worst that can happen?

Answer 2

So if I read this right, you are asking the following: Person A suspects Person B of keeping/telling secrets, yet in Person A's heart of hearts, Person A knows there is no reason to suspect Person B? And if so, does this stem from Person A having a guilty conscience? Yes, I would say Person A has a guilty conscience, among other problems, and is trying to redirect that problem onto others. Person A should seek some professional counseling about that.

Answer 3

people get suspicious for many reasons. I know for me I used to always be suspicious of any new person I dated cause I always seemed to attract the wrong guys and it was my way of protecting my heart. it was a way a building a wall so to speak and I gradually broke the wall down the more I got to know them. Only you can decide if its from a guilty conscience or just a way you are protecting yourself from repeating past experiences. sit down and really think about it. have you done any thing that would cause you to have a guilty conscience or has the other person done something that you know in your heart is nothing but you feel suspicious about well then maybe you should just sit down with them and talk about it. just put it in a way where it comes across to the other person that its just nothing and you were just curious so they don't get offended or on the defense. I hope this helps you feel less confused.

Answer 4

Well, it can be a few things. For one I went through that where I suspected that my man was keeping secrets, etc.. and a lot of it had to do with my past experiences of not being able to trust someone. But it also had to do with the fact that I did not truct him yet, I was insecure in the relationship, and I wondered why he chose me(self esteem issues). It can be absolutlely nothing. But if you are suspecting this because of past problems, then don;t just discard the feeling. If he/she has lied to you in the past or kept secrets, etc.. then be careful. In true love there are no secrets. Good luck. If it is due to past problems and insecurity things just wait it out and see what happens and if you feel up to it ask your spouse. Be honest about it. Good luck.

Answer 5

I guess it would be important to know what kind of secret. Secrets aren't bad...sometimes its fun to have a secret. I don't believe that another person needs to know 100% of a spouse or g/f b/f....we all deserve a bit of 'space'....however, if you feel the secret is concerning where he has been and things of that nature...then I would suspect a guilty conscience.

Answer 6

There has to be a reason for you to suspect secrets, and I would say that it might come from a previous relationship, and fears of a repeat from that relationship. If that isn't the case, you are feeling this way because they have acted in a suspicious manner and have given you a reason to feel this way.

Answer 7

I'm not 100% sure what it is you are talking about. Lack of trust can be based on many different things. Yes he could be guilty of what he is accusing you of doing. A past relationship could be resurfacing. He could be listening to friends and co-workers who are having troubles in their own lives.

You two need to sit down and talk ... I mean really talk about what is happening. If talking doesn't work then think about seeing a councilor to determine where everything is coming from.

If you really love him then do whatever you can to solved the problem before its too late.

Good luck and god bless.

Answer 8

I think in a way it can stem from your oun guilt. Depending in my case for example i believe my husband is perfect. he has never smoked, drank, or even had sex with and one before we got married, yet I still find my self thinking that he might or is cheating on me. I dont know why, maybe its just me coping with the fact that i have one of the few guys out there that truely love and adore their partner. I hope thins helps if not sorry.

Answer 9

Everybody always says that when someone suspects something its because they are doing it themselves. That is not always true. Ever think that deep down inside they really believe there are secrets ?? Ever think that what they are telling you is actually the way they are feeling ?

Answer 10

I am in a relationship I guess. The reason for saying I been dating this guy for 9 months I have not seen him in month and tow week. He say little stuff like don't give guys your number. I think he have gave girls his number but I am starting to give up on him