How would you possibly help someone who is in an abusive relationship, but doesn't seem willing to leave it?

Answer 1

The only way I know to help somebody in that situation, is to love them 24/7, 365. It's easy for me to sit back, when I'm not in their shoes, and say you ought to do this or that. A friend of mine taught me recently, that it's easy for me to talk, and give advice, when it's not me that's there in it. They stay for various reasons: the kids, finances, nowhere to go, fear of being alone, low self-esteem, and image. You help them by being concerned, loving and caring about them, and occasionally, allowing them to vent....without saying, "I told you so!"

Answer 2

You can only help someone if they truly want help. I do not know what it is about an abusive relationship, but the one getting abused will always make excuses to stay. The abuse keeps growing until the law has to step in domestic violence reasons, whether married or not.

Answer 3

Sometimes a person in an abusive realtionship is too scared to leave it. Simetimes they are unwilling to admit that there is a problem, or convince themselves that they deserve it. Sometimes they still love their abuser. Or a combination of those.

The fact is, the person being abused may be unable to help him/herself. Be a friend and intervene on their behalf. With back-up if needed.

Answer 4

you cant but all u can do is be there for them and let them know that is a bad relationship and tell them that they deserve better than that... u cant make them leave if they dont want to leave. but also a thing that helps is if you two come up wit a plan about a place to stay a new job and all that stuff one may worry about when deciding weather to leave or not....

Answer 5

Oh my, i think with the experience i've had with that,
that's its almost impossible .. Whenever you try to help they get angry and sometimes you lose their friendship, and all you are trying to do is save them from their abusive boyfriends or crazy husbands ... So whether you try to help a friend or stranger they only tell you to mine your own business, but i would hope that there is at least 1% that will listen to your wanting to help them and leave their harmful environment before they really get hurt ..
Its very sad indeed when you see woman being taken to the hospital from their involvement with high strung men ...
Sad, sad, sad .......

Answer 6

Free and completely confidential advice and assistance may be found at:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233
http://www.ndvh.org/

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673
http://www.rainn.org/

Encourage this person to call/contact/reach out.
Help them find the strength and courage to do so as you would want them to help you find the strength and courage if the situation were reversed.
You can soothe and comfort -and encourage- but only this person can do what is required to protect themselves.

Answer 7

All you can do is let this someone know how you feel.
And possibly get this someone to speak to a professional counselor. Other than that....
One must WANTassistance before anyone is able to help.

Answer 8

Been there done that it is very difficult unless the person is willing to leave its impossible to help them until they want to help themselves it ends up tearing you up more than the person involved it is very frustrating

Answer 9

Can't save anyone until they're ready to be saved.
Just point out they CAN be saved if they want to be.
And hope their abuser doesn't kill them before they learn that lesson.
Life ain't fair.

Answer 10

You really can't. Just like an alcoholic you have to wait for them to want to change .

Just be their friend , be kind and let them know that