My boyfriend and I met on Match.com and shortly afterwards moved in together. We both came from hard divorces and had tons in common. After a year of dating we decided to have a child of our own. I had two from the divorce. Our daughter is now 6 months old and it is now 3 years later. He now tells me he don't love me right now but cares alot about me. We are going to be living seperately during the weekdays due to our professions but will be together on the weekends. He states that this may help our relationship, since we wont be under the constant stress of the family and finances. What should I do. I still love and adore him and he still acts as if he loves me with kisses, hugs and stuff. I need some advice, please respond.
2006-07-13 09:36:25 · 9 answers · asked by TJ MCKM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think he is thinking that if he says he loves you he will become commited to you. You didn't get married, as you should have before taking the step to have a baby, and he is obviously concerned about repeating the trauma of the last divorce. You are in a tough position, since you got the cart before the horse. The best you can hope for is that he will see that he needs to firm up his commitment to both you and the baby. If you push him he will probably split. Hopefully by your patience and love he will come around and make an honest woman of you.
2006-07-13 09:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweetie, anytime a man says he needs to be away from a relationship to repair it, it's never a good thing. you spend more time, not less. if he is still being affectionate with you, he needs to know you are still available if whatever he has on the side doesn't work out. men are very simple. Don't read into anything. If he says he doesn't love you, he means it. let him go and find yourself a man that will never leave you even if it means living under a bridge together for the rest of your life.
2006-07-13 09:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...it sounds to me like he wants the best of both worlds. I think he may be interested in someone else and is just testing the water. He needs to grow up and be a man. He has a child he needs to worry about, who does she stay with during the week??? How is living apart going to help him when he says he doesn't love you, you don't fall out of love. In my opinion he is bored. I would really just tell him to hit the road. He needs to confess to what he is really doing when the two of you are not together.
2006-07-13 09:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by chillilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be beneficial in the long run.
Coming from a divorce, then a new relationship, then a new baby can be overwhelming even in 3 years.
I believe he still loves you, but needs personal space to do what feels good to him and him only. Obliviously he is doing is part..... only time will show this to you.
2006-07-13 09:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by yadedyah_dc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all hon u need to love yourself b4 anyone else can love u .. by him being honest and telling u, he was a real man (not many left).now if u feel like this situation of him gone on weekends will work to make your relationship stronger,then take that chance and try it.don't at all hold back what is on your mind to him u have questions and thoughts well let him know..communication very important...1 less thing make sure he is not seeing someone else while away ,cause that is not trying to work on you 2..
2006-07-13 09:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by DaNeLLe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. It seems that he has some type of issue of sorts that he can't quite communicate to you. Being that you both came from divorces you also came with baggage...that needs to be taken care of if you want any type of future.
2006-07-13 09:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he don't love you.Why is he still coming around, I think he love you he just going through some thing.
2006-07-13 09:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to avoid seeing you too much, because you're controlling and self-centered.
2006-07-13 09:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋