I will be completely honest because I want good answers. I'm what some people might call that bad boy type. I broke up with my girl about three weeks ago because she got mad when I flirted, yes I broke up with HER, yet I saw her at a party last night while sitting with girls, she pulls me over to talk, and we get back together! I ignore her when she comes around me when I'm with my boys, I flirt a little with other girls when she's around, and I'm always getting in trouble, yet she still always forgives me. We fight now more than ever and we dont really have fun with eachother anymore. Please tell me why she cant just break up with me and stay broken up with me.
2006-07-13 09:32:59 · 10 answers · asked by Big J 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
The question should be, why do u keep on taking her back? If u are not having so much fun with her, u ignore her when ur boys are around and u openly flirt with other women, maybe you should be single and do what single people do instead of having her in your life and having an off and on relationship.
2006-07-13 09:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hope.
It is the number one reason people stay/return.
When things are good between you two she probably feels lighter than air and loves that feeling. She hopes that it is within her power to do something to get that feeling back.
The deeper issue is self esteem. She has somehow gotten in the habbit of turning to sources outside her self to feel good/ validated (i.e. pretty, smart, funny, sexy). She needs someone else to make her feel that way since those feelings don't come from inside.
The second part of the issue is that you have a power issue that also comes from low self esteem. You also seek to feel better from external sources. But in this case it is to treat other people disrespectfully and have them still need you.
You need to break the cycle. Work on skills that will make you value yourself, even without people "needing" you. Work on a sport you like, or take up music. Something you can be proud of that actually has worth...Not just the relative worth based on status you have because of flirting and parties.
Work on trying to repect women for the same things. Talent and skills that make them special, not just how "hot" they are. You might find someone who keeps you interested enough to stay with for more than a blink of an eye.
Good luck.
2006-07-13 09:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal Violet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women are just stupid sometimes. A guy will treat them like crap or fool around on them but they stay with them. Then they complain about not meeting any nice guys. They're dumb sometimes and since the womans mind is such a fcked up thing, we will never truely know why they do what they do cuz they sure as hell dont tell us. Maybe they dont know either, which proves their ignorance
2006-07-13 09:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bucfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She more than likely has issues with herself and is insecure about herself. i hate to admit it but i've been that girl too. that was a long time ago and i was stiupid and naive. But I grew up and realized I didn't need the loser guy afterall. She needs to find herself and my suggestion is you just stay completely away from her. Obviously you aren't serious about her. Ignoring her is the best and only solution. She'll eventually get over you and move on.
2006-07-13 10:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she thinks she is going to change you. She wants to be the one for you and claim you as her prize. She beats out all the other girls and wins! It's pretty normal for a girl to go after a bad boy type. We (females) are taught from childhood that guys need us to make decisions for them and sometimes a girl thinks the guy needs to be told who he wants to be with.
2006-07-13 09:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a self-esteem problem.
-I'm assuming that you what to know why she WANTS to get back with you rather than why you keep getting back together...the answer to that is obvious: "Because you let her get back together with you", just like mattinhoustontx said.
2006-07-13 09:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Misty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let her get back together with you. Are you at least hittin' it?
2006-07-13 09:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she mus really feel that ur the one for her
2006-07-13 09:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by MizzJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pathetic, isn't she?
2006-07-13 15:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Drift 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you're dumb enough to take her back..
2006-07-13 14:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by Mexitaliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋