we had two kids together and things drove us apart, now we see each other every thursday for the sake of the kids. we also have sex still even though she is with sumone else. he doesnt know but after a 9 year relationship i love her the same as i did from day one.
2006-07-13 09:28:36 · 17 answers · asked by eezy2please 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It isn't wrong to still love her but it is wrong to have sex with her.
If you both had wanted your marriage to work then you both would have worked harder at making it work.
She is using you for sex, thats all, give up on any ideas of getting back together cos even if you did she's cheating with you now why wouldn't she cheat on you as well as with you.
Move on, get a life of your own & stop living in hopes and memories of her.
2006-07-13 09:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is having her cake and eating it , stop having sex with her tell her you still want to spend time together with the kids and don't let yourself get left alone together so there is no chance of sex tell her if she wants a sexual relationship it has to be you her and the kids not you her , her boyfriend and the kids
its not fair on you , OK so you get some loving every Thursday but she's getting it seven days a week and only one day is with YOU
If she is not willing to recommit to you,you need to look after no 1 and find someone who will , you will still be able to see your kids and what would happen if the boyfriend finds out ?????
2006-07-13 11:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Grizley Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone can never be wrong. It will cause you heartache of course, but it isn't wrong.
You should maybe try explaining how you feel to her. I know she is your ex for a reason, but is there still a spark between you? If yes i think its worth persuing. Especially since you have children together.
At the same time she is seeing someone else which makes me think she lacks respect for both of you.
I dont know how you wants things to turn out, but to answer your question - NO it isn't wrong.
I hope things work out
Peace x
2006-07-13 09:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by BlueMorpho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not "wrong" for you to love her. After all you grew together for those 9 years and brought two children in to this world. In my opinion I think she still has feelings for you (otherwise she wouldn't be having sex with you, and I'm sure it's not a mercy lay) I just think she needs time to figure out what she really, really wants.
2006-07-13 09:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can't help who we love, it's not wrong to love someone but it is wrong to hurt someone else if you can do something about it.
If you and your ex really want to be together, you have to be honest and open about it.
If your ex loves you as much as you still love her then for both your sakes and for the sakes of your children, get together, go see a counsellor, and try again to make it work.
2006-07-13 09:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by jane m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the sex! If you still love her, try courting her again and win her back that way. Nothing wrong with still being in love with your ex. Try, it it may work.
2006-07-13 10:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
than you are sick those kids dont mean you have to have sex she is your ex let her go move on with your life stop being a sucker for her she is not worth the pain you are feeling there is a good one woman man out there find her leave the trash for the garabage man
2006-07-13 09:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel, i'm sure she still has the same feelings for you, and you should get back together. All the best !!
2006-07-13 09:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by kriti_and_veera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her to see if she feels the same way, she cant love the guy she is with because she wouldnt sleep with you otherwise, talk to her for the kids sake if not for you
2006-07-13 09:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by jojo78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Why is she your ex, and she is wrong for sleeping with you. Because she have a boyfriend know, but explain to her that you want to be back with her.
2006-07-13 09:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋