example:
you have been living with your partner together for 7 years,You and your partner lost everything and you only had a suitcase each with your posession, No job and no money. If u had to make a choice which one u prefer?
Live with your parents without your partner means be in their mercy until u get on your two feet and being controlled by them.
or
Live with your partner parents, who are denial that you are together and being controlled by them
2006-07-13 09:22:05 · 14 answers · asked by yellow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
arrghhhhhhhhhhh.. im going insane
2006-07-13 09:30:41 · update #1
Find some rope for your partner his parents your parents and TIE them altogether
LIVE OF THEIR MONEY etc etc
2006-07-13 10:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by itsa o 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Stay with your partner, at least you can face things together. Go to your local council and get them to accept you on their homeless persons unit. This means staying in a bed and breakfast while they house you, if you are lucky, you will end up with a temporary flat, then you will get your permanent one. You must convince them that staying with either set of parents is absolutely out of the question, and you must state why. For example, you have lived as man and wife for seven years, so going to your parents would in effect cause a forced separation and you are both depressed and stressed enough by recent events. Staying with his parents is not possible as they do not accept you as a couple and therefore would cause a forced separation etc etc. Any doctor's evidence that you are ill or depressed or suffering from stress would help as would any information regarding how you came to be jobless, penniless and without any posessions. Police or insurance reports, any paperwork will help. they will try to bounce you all over the place, at all times stay calm, treat the person you are talking to with respect not anger and keep to your main points. Tell them you need housing THAT DAY, that you could maybe stay somewhere for one night, but that you have NOWHERE TO GO. They should accept you onto their scheme and find you somewhere immediately, though this will be a hotel. Tell them you will be happy to take part in any housing schemes they have, such as private landlords who accept DSS payments. Also, go to your local social security office and claim benefits as soon as you can.
2006-07-13 16:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tefi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm, a bit tricky. Not perfect whatever you do. Each move in with your own parents, as they may be more likely to put you up and sort you out. Get a job, start saving some money then try and find a place for you and your partner to rent.
2006-07-13 16:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie - I've been there. When we got back from travelling we had nothing at all and we tried living with both sets of parents and neither worked out, although it was a bit better with his parents as they have a bigger house and we could have our own room at least. I would suggest living with his parents so that you can stay together but both working as many hours as you possibly can so that you can save money and get your own place again as soon as possible.
2006-07-13 16:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather live with my own parents, even if it's without my partner, (whom I could still go out and see) than live with his parents who are controlling. Sounds more stressful living with his folks...and who needs added stress?
2006-07-13 16:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither,
what do the two of you want to do, do you want to live together, then find a flat you can share or go live with some friends for a couple weeks.
going back to any parents is a bad idea
2006-07-13 16:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by mysps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live with your partners parents. at least then you can be with them and escape from the family life.
2006-07-13 16:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by xxmexx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would live with your partners parents until yall could get on your feet
2006-07-13 16:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
partners parents i think but its hard to say unless your in that situation i guess.
cos if you go live with his parents your parents mite get funny about it or soemthing i dont know sorry.
2006-07-13 16:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by skidleypoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** both, stick with your partner, go to your good friends ask them for help, and make it out on your own.
2006-07-13 16:26:12 · answer #10 · answered by SpankmasterFlex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋