We have been together for almost 5 years, we have a 2 year old together and it just doesn't seem like it was back then. I mean I know things change, but I am getting to the point where I am not satisfied (you know what I'm talkin about). I have discussed this with him, but not by saying it like I am now..... if I were to tell him in this manner I think it would damage him in a way, but it is really bothering me.... what should I do?
2006-07-13 09:11:31 · 9 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lust generally can only last up to five years and most seem not to understand that too much familiarity in an intimate relationship breeds actual contempt.
The good news is that we can reacquire that sense of lust at any time in our relationships ... it just takes work and commitment.
And we can learn that healthy communications between couples is simply honestly being able to openly express where you are ... but, not sharing your whole story or making them explain every nuance and intimate detail ...... men and women need to keep their secrets... our very diverse genders and sexes need to keep that sense of mystery..... it keeps us enthralled and wondering.
VIVA La Difference
2006-07-13 09:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by rcabrave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The straight and honest approach is best IMHO. Go somewhere alone and tell him straight. Tell him "I want to be with other men. I may not always want to do this but I do right now because I am not satisfied." You may be surprised because he might want to be with other women. You may just not be talking about it. This will make you candidates for counseling or an open relationship, either of which is better than where you are now.
2006-07-13 16:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well more than likely, if you are feeling this way, so is he. Just be honest. Tell him you don't want to lose him but you would like to try and spice up your relationship. I am sure if he is a good guy he will understand and probably even agree and the two of you can work at it. Communication really is key.
Good Luck!
2006-07-13 16:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you guys should just be open to one another and talk to each other about this. Because if MY relationship were boring (not in THAT way) there would be no way i would stay with him. And on account of me being young theres way more boys out there. And you never know if you want to spend the rest of your life with him, there could still be more men out there for you.
2006-07-13 16:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Question? I Got An Answer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and discuss it openly. Put it just as you have in your question here, and elborate more. Ask him how he feels. The figure out ways together to make changes. Remember that romance usually starts outside the bedroom, and figure out the things that are elsewhere in your life that are affecting intimacy.
2006-07-13 16:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and tell him why you think the relationship is boring, and then if you still want to be with him, try to figure out a way to solve the problem and make the relationship more interesting
2006-07-13 16:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by odisonw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the child first instead of some hypothetical knight in shining armor sweeping you away on his magnificent steed into some grand adventure.
2006-07-13 16:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by DannyK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy some whips and chains?
2006-07-13 16:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if things are drab..try sprucing it up yourself..if he ain't into that get rid of him..easier now when your not married...believe me.!!!
2006-07-13 16:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by motorcyclelovinmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋