The greatest single thing you can do in your relationship is get separate bedrooms. She has all of her stuff in her room decorated the way she wants and the same with him. The overstuffed closets and drawers are not integrated and it is not frustrating if the other does not feel like cleaning up for a day or two.
Also, it is great to choose if you want to sleep next to someone or not. You have one masculine and one feminine environment to be intimate in and you can "visit" one another. You can sleep together every night if you want and just change environments and if you just need to be alone, there is some place to go.
There are many more benefits I can rattle off but I want to hear from you.
Tell me what you think.
2006-07-13 09:10:08 · 18 answers · asked by BluntForceTrauma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We sleep together every night. Except on rare occasion. We used to share a bedroom (4 years) but we get along way better now . There is no comparison. We are closer than ever, love and sex seem fresh and constantly renewed, and by having an escape we must choose to be together every night which is beautiful to me.
We are both secure and very busy professionals so it also practical without creating any insecurity issues.
2006-07-13 09:37:38 · update #1
Me and my husband has seprate bedrooms and its great.
We have sex more now then when we shared a room.
Plus he snores and i grind my teeth.
PS . We do spend time together just not when we are asleep ,
We fight LESS because we both get the sleep we need.
2006-07-13 09:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't a good thing. It makes it too easy for people to fight and to grow apart because they don't have to deal with each other. A marriage is about being united as a couple and having to be a separate person. I prefer to spend every night sleeping next to my wife in our bedroom.
2006-07-13 09:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think seprate bedrooms is a good thing. husband and wife should sleep together in the same room and same bed. in relationship you should be able to touch you partner, feel close to them and share bad nights together so that comfort is always next to you. When there are fights being apart only keeps you apart more and doesn't give ya'll the chance to really kiss and make up in bed. Im not speaking about sex but just comfort each other in bed and assure one another that everything will be okay.
2006-07-13 09:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by gladys 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so. I don't like the idea of having separate bedrooms. You're not husband and wife then , you're roomates
2006-07-13 09:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well dont think you have ever commited yourself yet....then you wouldnt even notice what was in the room but you or her..seperate beds are for the give up people who give up,,,nothing wrong with wanting to hold someone while they sleep.brings you closer together..the snoring could be a bit of a whammie though ! and no i dont (snore)
2006-07-13 09:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by wonder woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no!!!! not for me..I love it when my man rolls over and gentle touches me...it doesn't even have to be a sexual touch, just his touch, his smell, his presences...I guess I couldn't... i can't sleep without him. feels wierd!!! but maybe you need to ask yourself if your relationship is headed in a way that is good or bad. R U in diff rooms to be away from one another? Must be, I didn't read anything nice about being with her.....sounds like your growing apart..not faceing a situation? or just do not enjoy each other anymore. Life is too short for that!!!
2006-07-13 09:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by motorcyclelovinmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for you two-- then great. I can see the benefits, depending on sleep habits, work schedules, etc. Sounds ok. Keep doing what is best for the two of you. Might work out good for me b/c my mate snores like a train.
2006-07-13 09:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that if you are married why would you WANT to sleep in seperate rooms and not share a bed? I think in a healthy marriage two people should want to sleep in the same bed together. I even heard a story once that a woman slept in the same bed as her husband even though he has a disturbing sleep disorder that caused him to move violently and possible risk hurting her. I think sleeping in the same bed is an emotional thing. Sleeping next to your partner is secure, its comforting knowing that your partner is next to you and that is a very nice thought to a lot of people.
If you are worried about space in the bedroom, I say maybe you two should each pick a certain number of things that youd like to have and are willing to live with. Usually men arent picky about the style of their bedroom, and a lot of times when you are with your partner your tastes can influence each other.
I think if you are more worried about bedroom decor and overstuffed closets more than the thought of sleeping in the same room as your partner, there may be a problem with your priorities. Whats more important,material stuff or your partner?
2006-07-13 09:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by niteangel2283 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No i don't think that sounds like a good idea if you are married.Maybe if you are roommates who has sex once in a while.
2006-07-13 09:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess if you have enough $$ and space then you might as well make 3 one for her, one for him and one for "meeting," have a studio and 3 seperate rooms for each of your kids and you got a nice place! But for the normal married couple a. its not in your budget, and b. you kinda get married to merge together so it defeats the purpose. In my opinion
2006-07-13 09:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by T-girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋