2006-07-13 09:09:11 · 19 answers · asked by Miss D 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It would depend on the severity of the disease. If it's AIDS then it's a no-brainer--tell the partner because you wouldn't want a murderer for a friend. If there are any STDs any more that are detected and cured easily, then it might be better for the partner to find out the hard way that it's a cruel world out there, or maybe he is taking precautions to prevent getting it. In between inconvenience and death there is a huge gray area. If it's a disease with potential serious consequences, like infertility, then I'd err on the side of losing the friendship and protecting the partner. I would lose so much respect for a friend who did that, it would threaten the friendship anyway, I think.
2006-07-13 18:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is avoiding the inevitable conversation that will arise WHEN her partner finds out. STD's don't stay secret for that long usually.
If it's HIV, you owe it to her partner to tell him/her or any other human being in that situation.
Your friend should be the one to tell him/her though and it's down to her being a bit selfish that she's not telling him.
Personally, I think you should speak to her openly first and explain how serious a situation it is and that she has chosen to do something which has resulted in unfortunate consequences. Not telling her partner will definitely make things much worse.
You sound responsible enough to be able to do this so go for it and if worst comes to worst, threaten her that you will tell him/her yourself. If you lose a friend out of it, I wouldn't lose much sleep because it's the kind of friend that would willingly infect her partner with an STD. You don't need friends like that. You may say it's more complicated than that but it isn't. She's in an adult situation now and she has to deal with it in an adult, and more importantly, fair way.
2006-07-14 08:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true, that she has a legal obligation to inform her partner and could potentially be sued for damages if he is infected by her without her notifying him.
As to your part in this, it depends on whether you want to keep this person as a friend or not. It really is her private business and her responsibility to tell him. If you choose to tell him because she hasn't you have taken that choice from her and will more than likely loose the friend. She may feel her trust in telling you something in confidence was violated.
You have to answer this question. Do you feel the moral obligation to inform the man about your friends positive status weighs more than your friendship with her?
2006-07-13 09:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Answer 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chum is averting the inevitable communication which will arise while her significant different famous out. STD's do no longer stay secret for that long in many circumstances. If it is HIV, you owe it to her significant different to tell him/her or the different man or woman in that concern. Your chum may be the only to tell him/her nonetheless and it is right down to her being slightly egocentric that she's no longer telling him. in my opinion, i think of you may communicate to her brazenly first and clarify how severe a concern that's and that she has chosen to do some thing which has led to unlucky outcomes. no longer telling her significant different will actually make issues plenty worse. You sound to blame adequate to be waiting to try this so decide for it and if worst includes worst, threaten her which you will tell him/her your self. in case you lose a chum out of it, i does not lose plenty sleep via fact it is the fashion of chum that ought to willingly infect her significant different with an STD. you do no longer choose acquaintances like that. you may say it is greater complicated than that even nonetheless it is not. She's in an person concern now and he or she has to handle it in an person, and greater importantly, honest way.
2016-10-07 21:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! Left untreated an STD can do a lot more damage to the body and reproductive system in both men and women.
2006-07-13 09:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by sammyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,How would you like if a man gave you a std and never told you?.Your best friend needs to grow up.
2006-07-13 09:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-13 09:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by puppet7112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your close friend is an idiot...of course tell the partner before he gets sicker and gets irreversible symptoms and before he gives it to someone else.
2006-07-13 09:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh please please tell her she must say something she cant leave it
i no this must be hard for you but i will say if she wont maybe the clinic will i think that would be the best thing even if you ring were she got treated and told them what is going on they will get in contact with him
i am sorry to hear your friend is so negative in saying something this is some ones health she must say something
ring the clinic were she was treated and tell them Hun this is not fair on her partner
good luck
respect
shaz
2006-07-13 09:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find a way to ensure that he found out for "himself," without personally and directly telling him. But I would make sure he found out.
He deserves to know.
2006-07-13 12:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lanani 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋