My mom recently had an affair. She called me two days ago and when I answered she was crying. I asked her what was wrong, and she just came out and told me that she slept with another man. I didn't ask for her to tell me, she just came out and said it. In conversations I have had with my dad, I heard him say that he would leave her if he ever knew that she actually cheated on him. I guess on on the inside, I didn't want my parents to split up, because their my parents. Yesterday afternoon, my mother called me and told me that she had told my father the truth. In the process, she told him that I knew! I'm really tore up about it in that I feel I have let my dad down. I just didn't want to be the one to deliver the news.
2006-07-13 09:09:04 · 10 answers · asked by whynot2363 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was not your place to inform your father of your mother's confession.
I would tell your father that you thought about it long and hard, but you're the kid...not the parent...not the marriage counselor...and not the family priest.
I would tell your father (and your mother) that you resent being put in the middle of it by your mother. I would tell your mother she needs to (a) be the parent and (b) quit trying to deflect your father's anger from her to YOU.
2006-07-13 10:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the hardest questions. On one hand you don' t want to betray your mom and on the other you don't want to betray your dad. It was totally unfair of your mother to not only tell you about the affair but also to tell your dad that you knew. When you hear something like this it takes time to process it. I would be sooo upset with my mother for putting me into that kind of situation.
2006-07-13 09:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, your parents are about to dig battle trenches. You did the right thing. Your mom is a traitor. I'd whack her with a shovel. Really though, she sold you out. You dad should forgive you, sounds like your mom is a real winner. Good luck sorting out holidays from now on.
2006-07-13 09:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dad confronts you about this, tell him that this should be between him & your mom. It isn't your job to police your parents. In my opinion, your mom never should have told you. She put you in an impossible position. I would hope that your dad realizes this, and leaves you out of this.
2006-07-13 09:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom should not got you in the middle of that.You are not in the wrong here.Your mom is.She is the one that cheated.If you think about it you would of broke either your mom or you dads trust either by telling or not telling.You were going to lose either way.
2006-07-13 09:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you favor to thank god that he did not shoot her and comprehend the actual undeniable actuality that what you probably did ought to are growing to be your mom killed. not sturdy! that is plausible she ought to hate you for it, i have considered it take position many circumstances over, difficult actuality of life. i'm not particular in case you are able to convenience her. Pray with all of your heart for the superb even as asking God to forgive you on your determined degree of a flow and collectively pray that your mom forgives you as well, and that i'd be praying for you, truly. interior the destiny, keep in recommendations, "there isn't any excellent thanks to doing incorrect, yet there are sensible techniques to bypass about righting a incorrect."
2016-12-10 09:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... tough one! I would tell my mother that I NEVER want her to confide something that puts me in the middle again. Tell her you don't want to have to choose between your parents & you shouldnt have to. As for telling your dad, its horrible yet again she dropped you in the middle. Encourage your mom to be honest & maybe try marriage counseling.
2006-07-13 09:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. No one should have to stay with a cheater. I can't imagine living life for years never knowing my wife cheated on me.
2006-07-13 09:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by Legend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My!!! I don't want to be in your shoes. Tell your dad you wanted to tell him but you didn't want them to separate because of this
2006-07-13 09:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i would feel bad if i were you too, its a shame that your mom had to drag you into this.your mom is a sluut
2006-07-13 09:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋