i wanted to go to the mall today and they said no because the mall isn't for hanging out itz for shopping. they've been like this forever and i'm 14 now
2006-07-13 08:48:58 · 45 answers · asked by backdraft199@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i hav 178$ of my own money and i havent lost their trust or anything because they never let me go places with less than 5 ppl
2006-07-13 08:58:48 · update #1
They are correct. You should hang out in parks and similar places. Malls are for people who need to buy things.
2006-07-13 08:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could relate to that because I have a 14-year old as well, and let me tell you that communication is the key. Don't sneak out or lie to your parents by giving them all kind of excuses like "I'm going over to Jane's to study, or Kate is having a birthday party" and so on. Instead, state openly where you want to go, with whom, and what are you going to do there. Also, it never hurts to have one of the adults to be nearby in case of emergencies. And not to hover over you and your friends but maybe take this as an opportunity to window shop or even buy something, or go see a movie. The list ot things to do has no limits. Also, you might ask your mom or dad to give you a ride to the mall and pick up your friends as well which will make them calmer in knowing who your company is. Again, communication is the key. And if you do not own a cell phone yet ask your parent to invest in one for you, as an early birthday gift, so this way they can always get in touch with you and you with them. The bottom line is - no lies and communicate. Either way its tough - Good luck!
2006-07-13 09:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by ilana73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait till you have to shop to hang out. You should tell them how it is pretty safe at the mall and you are unable to do drugs there. Also that you would like to eat and see a movie with your friends. I am a mom and I wouldn't mind if my kids were hanging out at the mall because it does seem safe and i never see any kids doing drugs. They all seem to be good kids who love dressing up and showing off. Nothing wrong with that. Mostly parents worry about you being safe.
2006-07-13 08:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who is 15 and I totally believe a teenager needs his space and time to experience things without mom hanging on them. First know that your mom loves you very very much and she is only trying to protect you from bad things happenning! Never doubt her love. Sit down and talk with her. Pour your heart out and tell her exactly how u feel. Maybe she has just forgotten what its like to be 14! Remind her! Being a teen opens you to a whole new world and eventually she will have to give you some space to be you! Have u tried seeing if she will let u go with a friend and not alone? it may be the alone thing that scares her so much
2006-07-13 10:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll look back when you're older and realize that the mall is boring. You should find friends that can find REAL things to do that are fun. Not just wandering around wasting their time spending their parents money on nothing.
Maybe get a skateboard or something like that that you can do on your own for free.
2006-07-13 08:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful you have parents who love you. Im sure they want to protect you. You are only 14. Trust me, you have lots of time to hang out at the mall.
2006-07-13 08:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by chlobug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mall isn't for hanging out, unless your Jason Lee drinking out of a small cup trying to console your friend whose girlfriend left him after another friend of his drowned in a pool while trying to lose weight before appearing on a gameshow being put on by his friend's girlfriend's Father. Anyone else want a chocolate pretzel?
2006-07-13 08:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by mrcone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! I know exactly what you're feeling right now. I'm 15 and my dad NEVER lets me do anything. He won't let me go to a friend's party, and whats bad is... It was a STUDENT COUNCIL party, since I am on student council... and yeah. He won't let me go to the mall, or go do lunch with my friends. I just don't get why though... I'm not in trouble or anything, just sit down and tell them you arent a baby, and you know they are looking out for you. Hope this helps!
2006-07-13 10:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Linh T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything.
they are your parents and you MUST do as they say.
you are only 14, so you have no rights.
but, you can tell them your going to hang out with jimmy, and then go to the mall, and hop they dont find out.
also, tell them that the mall IS for hanging out, because it is a safe place to go, its better than hanging around a school yard, or out on the streets. you are surrounded by people and security.
if they still say no..well then you gotta wait till your older.
2006-07-13 08:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by sobrien 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im with your parents your only 14 and if you dont have any money you should not be at the mall just walking around all day.
no im not old I know thats what your thinking im 23.
It scarry how kids think when they hit there teens.
2006-07-13 08:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by in_the_hood_of_ga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋