2006-07-13 08:17:58 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
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2006-07-13 08:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by unusualpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In college I took a human sexuality course...and we discussed this very topic. What is hard for most people to realize is that pretty much all babies and young kids do touch themselves in private places. They are NOT doing it for any kind of sexual stimulation, that comes with puberty. They do it because it feels good, but not in a sexual way. I know your cousin is a girl, but boys can get erections at any age! It would be wrong to punish her because that will stick in her mind and when she does become able to experience sexual pleasures she will feel guilty or maybe not be able to have an orgasm (I am talking about when she is a teen/adult here, not now). What she should be taught by her mother is that its ok to touch down there sometimes, but only in private, like bathroom or her bedroom. Also she should be taught to never let anyone else touch her down there until she is a grown up. My professor was a psychologist and her 4 year old daughter did it, and I would have to assume if a psychologist was not bothered by it, that it must be ok, not to metion the fact that our textbook had a whole chapter on it, saying it was normal. In fact, most of us probably did it at one time or another as babies. Also I would not teach her about the sexual side of the touching until she is much older, it would just end her innocence too much now. Let her enjoy being a kid.
As far as the people saying it could be a sign of abuse...normally the signs for sexual abuse are the kids HURTING themselves down there, or a young girl shoving objects inside her instead of just exploring with her hands.
2006-07-13 09:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by jillkmilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't masturbating as much as trying to feel good. At that age they do not really know what they are doing and they will do that activity when in trouble or bored. It is actually normal at that age and is a compensatory mechanism.
What is important is to teach her that it is wrong and to do some other activity. She does need to be broken from it because it will be rather embarrassing when she does it in public since at that age she will not realize that it is socially unacceptable behavior.
2006-07-13 08:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by JFra472449 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong that your cousin is masterbating at that age. She is too young to even know anything about sex. If I were you, I would stop her from doing that and explain to her that it's not right to do that. If you don't, she may grow up to be a fast one and be out of control. So my advice to you is to stop her now while she's still young.
2006-07-13 08:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by L.E. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure she hasn't been sexually molested? Most children at that age aren't very aware of those parts. It is odd to start that young.
Are you sure she's really masterbating or just touching and getting familiar. They're kind of different.
2006-07-13 08:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that some kids are curious but that is way to young esp. if it is on a regular basis. Mabey she has seen it or maybey someone has done something to her to make her want to do this I think her parents should know that she is doing this. And if they act like it doesn't matter you should tell another close family member.
2006-07-13 08:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal..I worked at a daycare and there were kids in the toddler room( ages 2-3) humping their cots to go to sleep..it's normal so the drs say...drs also say not to make a big deal about it and not to punish them for it...just tell them to go to their room and not to do it in from of everyone
No worries tho
2006-07-13 08:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by mrsmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was this child abused, i know some say this is normal but i have 2 children that have never done that and i have rasied 2 of my brothers and they did not do that untill they got in there teens. i am concern. talk to the parents . it could be a problem i think she needs to be told not to do that any more.
2006-07-13 08:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If pulling on your earlobe felt really really wonderful, you'd bet that kids would be pulling on their earlobe.
I've heard of kids pulling themselves across the carpet to rub on their private parts. It feels good and they don't know that it's private.
It's not wrong. Just teach her that it's a reason it's called her "Privates". And that she's more than welcome to go into her room.
2006-07-13 10:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no me and my cuzin started when we were 4
2006-07-13 08:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids who are 5 shouldnt be that sexualized. I think you need to get her mother to take her to her pediatrician and talk about it. She may even need some counselling.
When children act out adult sexual behavior it is alot of time they are being abused. Act now and get her help.
2006-07-13 08:23:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋