I don't necessarily believe in love at first sight, but everything seems so right. He is a wonderful man & he's hinting that he's going to ask me to marry him. Is it too soon to say yes?
2006-07-13 08:15:31 · 15 answers · asked by Marie K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A really LONG engagement would be alright, I think. Is it too soon to get engaged even?
2006-07-13 08:24:41 · update #1
Oh, FYI We are both in our 40s with grown children & both divorced
2006-07-13 08:49:56 · update #2
That is up to you. Just make sure you know him and I mean really know him. You can always have a long engagement and get to know the rest about each other then, but just be careful not too go too far too fast. I got engaged after 3 months so I can't really talk, but we have known each other for about 5 years. If your heart tells you yes go for it. Make sure when you do tell him yes make sure he knows you would like somewhat of a long engagement so you two can finish getting to know each other the rest of the way. Give it time to make sure it is right though before getting married. I have been there where everything seems so right, but then after three months it just isn't. I'm not saying this will happen I'm just saying try to be careful because in a relationship like that one the fall after being hurt is a long one and it's hard to get back up. I wish you the best. I hope this helps.
2006-07-13 08:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody thinks that their partner is perfect in the first month. Everyone always shows their best side and doesn't let all their little annoying habits be known. Neither of you could possibly know all the things that are necessary to know about each other to make a life long commitment. I know its easy to be flattered by the thought but if you are going to be together forever then what's the rush? If you seriously think that he may ask then it wouldn't be a bad idea the next time it comes up to mention that marriage is very serious and that if/when you do decide to get married that you want to be absolutely certain you are doing the right thing by taking your time and getting to know the person inside and out. If he is mature enough to marry you then he should be mature enough to handle the fact that you both need to time to make absolutely sure you are doing the right thing.
2006-07-13 08:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so I meet a guy about 7 months ago and after 2 months he asked me to marry him and I said yes. I know it may seem to soon but u only have one chance in life with the right person.
2006-07-13 15:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do not think it is too soon. My husband and I got engaged early... we were married after 5 months and still very in love.
2006-07-13 08:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cat D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Because lets say you decide to go for it, and do have a long engagement.... and then things dont work out when you know each other better... well... then people you have told and stuff will know you were engaged... and youll just have to deal with people saying ohhhh, im soooo sorry .... even if it was your decision.... but if you dont mind the possible extra drama, then go for it... but I dont see why you shouldnt wait.... you know.
2006-07-13 08:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both in your 40's, then you are old enough to know what is best for yourself. I say yourself because if your children and grown and gone, they shouldn't be a factor in this. Your heart wouldn't be hesitating if you were truly ready. You did post your question here to see what other's think. Only you should know the true answer.
2006-07-13 09:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a year and a half, it will still be too soon. Grow up and settle down..what in the world is the hurry? This is NOT going steady...it is really easy to get married, it is really hard to get divorced, and being divorced stays with you the rest of your life. What in heaven's name are you thinking? Oh..I see, you are NOT thinking.
2006-07-13 08:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Way too soon. Make sure it's right before you marry. It costs alot of money to get a divorce.
2006-07-13 09:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by sparkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too soon. you have your whole life to get married, just take things slow, and really get to know him before you make that commitment. Marriage is forever and you don't want to end up with someone who you have nothing in common with or that you that was a completely different person.
2006-07-13 08:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAY too soon, but if you want to be engaged you still can learn about the other person, learn if you have common goals...and believe me, you need to.
2006-07-13 08:18:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋