We cant live together and cant live apart, how do you stop the pain?
2006-07-13 08:12:31 · 15 answers · asked by Rose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I lost my husband to Cancer a year ago. I wish I could tell you a quick and easy way to stop the pain. I can say it lessens. You start to deal with things on a day by day basis. You start to heal. Have you tried to write a letter to him. Thank him for all that he had done for you and how much you love him. Tell him how he hurt you, or that you are sorry for hurting him. Next..forgive him. Put all of it in the letter...and end it with a good bye. Read it to someone you trust and feel comfortable with. We don't want to put the past in a vacum...we learn from our past and our mistakes. But we need to remember to keep the past in the past.
It is a long road and it is not always and easy one, but I can tell you that your heart will heal. You won't forget and some days you might just remember that person all day long..however try to do it with fondness and love. Try to think of the good and let the bad go. Whatever it is...the past is something none of us can change. I hope this brings you some kind of answer. Good luck
2006-07-13 08:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by okieblue38 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you can to take your mind off it. Work overtime, join a team or a club, meet new friends, etc. If it's possible, maybe even consider moving, as any memories shared in your place will be a constant reminder. Also, the move will get your mind off it all.
Also, try to avoid finding out what's happening in his life. It will only hurt you more to know he's dating again, etc. If you can be friends, then do so, but most relationships don't last to the friend phase, because of the way it makes you feel to hear how their life progresses without you.
Best of luck, and it really is true what they say...time does heal all wounds.
2006-07-13 08:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it feels like you can't breath when you can't be with the one you love but you will get through it and be stronger for it I promise, like all cuts take time to heal, you just have to take it one day at a time.
Let your self cry for your lose when ever you need it then push past the pain by doing more hours at work, going to a class or by going out and doing anything you like with people that will help you.
Let the people you trust know your pain they will help your heart heal like a loving bandage or supportive crutch.
after a while most of the pain will be gone and all that will be left will be the good, happy memories you shared and he will always be with you in your heart.
Chin up babe, you will be ok
Hugz CJxx
2006-07-13 08:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get on with life, dont let this be the be all and end all, of everything you are. its easier said than done and my heart reaches out to you, i understand how you must feel, you get that wrenching pain inside (i always felt it in my stomach), but in time it will pass. you are stronger than you think, fight through the pain and you will come out a better person on the other side.....good luck to you my friend...and be positive.
2006-07-13 08:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by anfield_dream9982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry that you are going through that. I don't know why you cant live with him but it must be bad. The pain may never go away, but given time it will dull enough for you to go on with your life and allow yourself to be happy. Remember anything is better then living with bad.
2006-07-13 08:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give yourself time! The pain you are feeling will eventually lessen.As cliched as it sounds, if there is no hope for the relationship you need to give yourself time to mourn it's end...then you need to find other things to occupy you and eventually move on. It's a slow process but believe me you will get over this
2006-07-13 08:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*cuddles screen* What can I say,If like me you will end up full of regrets so be strong and let him go. Somewhere out there is a soul mate one who you cant live without ever!!
2006-07-13 08:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eat lots of chocolate and ice cream... Put on 50lbs... Go to the gym... Fall in lust with a toned guy there with great abs...
Pain gone!!! ;)
2006-07-13 08:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain doesn't lessen hun...but slowly you lift your head, raise your eyes and a smile begins to appear again...
2006-07-13 08:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by amelia_madeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋