How do you handle the end of a friendship?

Question

So, I wonder do we mourn the loss of a friendship? When you come to the conclusion for whatever reason, that a person is no longer a friend as they led you to think; is there somewhat of a grieving process? Similar to what we may experience after a break up of a dating situation?
Do you hold a grudge or just become smarter by realizing someone’s true motives?

Answer 1

i think there is some type of mourning, or initial mixed emotions.. friends can be JUST as important as family or relationships in our support system. i think the easy thing to do is hold a grudge, and the harder thing to do is move on and realize that it's better in the long run to realize someone's true motive. for example, recently one of my high school friends was getting married across the country and me and another h.s. friend were bridesmaids. Chaos ensued, ending with the friend dropping out as a bridesmaid with a pitiful excuse and making things 10 times harder for me to do traveling, etc, on my own. i realized that she was a selfish, conniving, uncaring person through the process, and although i asked her multiple times to explain to me her side of the story (to give her benefit of the doubt), she just said that anything she said would sound like an excuse, and didn't want to talk about it! i ended up realizing that i just didn't like her character, and therefore didn't consider her a good friend anymore. i wasn't rude to her, but i just distanced myself. she ended up emailing ME a hate letter, saying since i "hated her SO much she will never speak to me again", and she "never wanted to see or talk to me again". at first i was angry and was going to send off an angry retort, but i realized that i didn't hate her, i just didn't like her as my friend anymore. and she couldn't handle that....which is why AGAIN she showed her ugly character by sending me a hate mail, and therefore proving that i'm better off without her. it's real easy to hold that grudge! hahaha.... but better to move on and just know that we just don't mix well together.

Answer 2

yes there is a grieving process and I have not fully ever gotten over losing a couple of friendships. It is normal. But You do become smarter and more aware of things about people's possible motives in the future by going through that. It is hard to find one really true friend. I don't know if that is even possible anymore.

Answer 3

I usually feel betrayed if that person has lied to me. But if a friendship drifted apart and finally ends, then I'd feel melancholy. For example, childhood friends drift apart all the time, but I guess they never really END (you still get together once a while, but you don't share the same closeness). So in essence, it's like losing a bit of yourself, or letting go of a certain point in your life.

Answer 4

relax and chill out!!!!!!!! and try to make it better