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My boyfriend has cheated on me with a girl i once knew, i have heard it was for 2 years but he says he has only slept with her twice but within the same night. He says he is sorry and will not do it again and it was spare of the moment. I dont know whether it is enough. I have told him if he wants me back he will have to work for me. Last year he asked me to marry him and claims he does love me. Does anyone have any suggestions?

2006-07-13 08:07:01 · 22 answers · asked by sweetyno4 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

By the way we have been together 6 years. This is a long time and i really do love him. I just dont know if i can take the risk.

2006-07-13 08:08:22 · update #1

I have only found out as the girl i suspected he was cheating with was actually covering for her friend and when i turned violent she decided to tell me the truth. I have told him i will take one day at a time, but i do have doubts.

2006-07-13 08:25:23 · update #2

22 answers

I would trust your feelings on this one, cos if you have any doubt at all it will poison the relationship.

Do you hold it against him and argue about It at all, or bring It up in any bad conversation??

If yes then this is what your life will be like till it destroys, not only you, but him too.

To live and learn is how we become better people, but how will he learn if you forgive him and will he do it again??

If you want to make a go of it then don't marry and stay together for a year or three, once the painful memory has gone and if he has stayed faithful then you will know,

on the other hand if you argue constantly looking for reassurance from him and don't get it or still you don't feel loved by him even tho he tries his best to make you happy then you are both better off apart....

Don't end up like me holding on to that last bit of hope and all the premises that go unfulfilled till you have to end it because you hurt so much

Good luck babe, I hope you make it through this stronger in the end, with or with out him.... I have so if the worst comes you will be ok ;)

CJxx

2006-07-13 08:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 2 · 4 1

In time you will forgive, humans have a short term memory when it comes to any type of pain! My question is: how will you ever trust him again? Trust is something we never forget once it has been destroyed. Get over the forgiving and start working on the trust issue, it's by far more important. My concern is if he can cheat on you when things were rough this time around what will he do if you get married, have kids, a mortgage and things get tough again?

2016-03-27 04:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ure probably scared of the unknown if u hav been with him for that long but if u dont trust him u dont hav a relationship. If he did it 4 two years he lies well if u didnt find out just think how many times in those 2 years he lied to u? then ask ure self why u should b with him?

2006-07-13 08:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by cas 3 · 0 0

see if he do really love you and want spend life withy ou and have sex with you then great but why he cheating??? Don't forgive him, He knows what GF and BF mean and He knows it means that i am with one girl and i sleep with and spend time with, kissing, stuff like that but cheating. wow, that not love. He knew what he doing. stupid *** not sorry. If he didn't do anything first place none happen.

My wife said if you cheat or anything or sex i leave you that is end of it.. don't care if you say sorry thousand times. She is right and Now I have been married to her 9 years and I have never once think or try have affair.. hope this helps.

2006-07-13 08:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0 0

Since you've been together so long I think you should give him another chance. If you feel that he might make this mistake again and if you have second thoughts then maybe you should rethink the relationship over. In the end you must use your heart and intuition to decide. Good Luck!

2006-07-13 08:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by harvard.cookie 1 · 0 0

If you`re asking the question then i think you know the answer! im speaking first hand having been cheated on by a guy who said he worshipped the ground i walked on-the trust is instantly broken between you, and no matter how much you love that person if theres no trust theres no point.

2006-07-13 08:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by babygirlscrivs 2 · 0 0

As hard as it is I've been with someone for six years. You got to follow your heart because that will definitely lead you in the right direction. The guy I've been with I know him for 10 years he finally asked me out in may and we aren't together now. We are not even speaking it breaks my heart but when your not getting the loving you deserve then you have to let it go.

If you trust him then move forward b.c trust is all you have when it comes to being married to someone.

2006-07-13 08:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah L 1 · 0 0

The question is can you forgive him? and can you trust him? it's easy to make rash decisions, but if you have recently found out about this perhaps you need a little time to rationally think through what you want to do. You need to talk to him and trust your own instincts. No one else can make such an important choice for you.

2006-07-13 08:17:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tell him he gets one get out of jail free card. After this, if he cheats you are gone, gone, gone.

So yes, give him one more chance. But I would hold off marrying him for a couple more years at least, to give him a chance to prove he'll be faithful.

2006-07-13 08:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hun..only you two can find the answer here...no amount of advice from anyone can tell you what to do....talk with each other and work it out as a team..I wish you every happiness!

2006-07-13 08:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by amelia_madeline 3 · 0 0

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