Ok, I have to go to camp with my team. Now, the girl that I am rooming with I have known for a long time. But about half way into the school year last year, she became bisexual. Like, she went out with girls (you know the whole kissing, holding hands, grabing butt.... yuck). Not that I have any problem with them, but I perfer to hang out with straight people, like myself. Anyway, I just found out a few days ago that she turned full gay. Like, not even going out with boys anymore and strikley girls. And I don't want to sound cocky or stuck up or full of myself or anything, but I feel a little aquword rooming with her. Because we will be changing infront of each other and everything, and I don't like that. And I feel really bad about feeling this way, because she is a really nice person and I don't want to act like I am so full of myself that she is in love with me. Because she might not even like me like that, but I don't know. What do I do to feel more comfortable rooming with her?
2006-07-13 08:03:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know that I've asked a question like this, but I needed more answers. BTW- It isnt the canging that worries me. It is just feeling comfortable rooming with her and all. Also, I don't think that she knows that I know that she is gay. So it isn't like I can just come right out and say it when she might not know I know. HELP!
2006-07-13 08:04:44 · update #1
Also, I can't change roomies or being straight! And, I am not trying to be full of myself and I also don't know if she likes me. She always hangs aroung me, and I like her as a friend, but I don't know what to do. So please give me some advice and seriously please!
2006-07-13 08:12:44 · update #2
If you are at a camp with a bunch of other girls, then you shouldn't have nothing to worry about. There will be enough girls at the camp to where she won't be paying any attention to you like that. If she is your friend then she should respect that you are straight. Just come out and tell her that you don't have a problem with her, just don't come on to you.
2006-07-13 08:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Okay, first of all, I don't think being gay is going cause her to try to recruit you. Nobody likes rejection and if she knows you're straight, she will probably be perfectly respectful of that. Of the gay people I've met, they generally don't want to set themselves up for rejection any more than we do. If anything is brought up, just tell her flat out your straight and leave it at that. I doubt you have anything to worry about. She's not going to jump on you in the middle of the night. And if she's not "out", and doesn't know you know, she probably won't even WANT you to know or let on about it. You could also make a point about talking about boys so she's completely AWARE that you're straight. And, if you legitmately can't change roommates -- just be friends, be honest and straightforward, and quit worrying until there's ACTUALLLY something to worry about -- which probably won't even come up.
2006-07-13 08:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shadycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 00:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your rooming with a gay girl....essentially its the same as rooming with a str8 guy. and therefore if it makes you uncomfortable then its unacceptable.
You should speak to whoever is in charge and have the arrangement changed and don't be afraid to say why.
You may certainly still be friends...but like I said...would they put you into a room with a straight guy?
2006-07-13 08:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by helipilot212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even let it get to you like that. I have a friend who's lezbian. I just hang out w her and treat her like every other girl. If she wants to think thoughts or have dreams abt me thats on her lol Stop trippin. Shes not gna rape you in your sleep lol
2006-07-13 08:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Thang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's oblivious to the fact that you're aware of her gayness, then play dumb. in some cases if you act like you don't know and she doesn't know that you actually do, then the awkwardness level hecka goes down. hope this applies
2006-07-13 08:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by metronome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking the way your thinking she's till human and she;s still a nice person give her a chance you mite not be her type
2006-07-13 08:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋