my mom and dad are not together and i don't know if i should go with my mom or dad my mom will leat me go more places but my mom sometimes not come home for days and my dad works all day and i stay home all day but i know he will be home after work and i don't know want 2 do if i pick my dad my mom will get mad and if i pick my mom my dad will get mad i don't know what 2 do please help me????
2006-07-13 07:42:55 · 18 answers · asked by nicole P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
utilize ur energy in uniting mom and dad togethe r
2006-07-13 07:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can wait and let a judge decide for you if you dont want to pick between your mom and dad.. but by what you've just said your dad seems better suited to be your custodial parent..Which is a good thing, my father had custody of me and i think the world of my dad, he wasnt as lienant as my mom.. my mom let us do what ever we wanted which was fun everyother weekend, but my mom later had another child (my half brother) in which she had custody of and he ended up quitting school , hanging with the wrong crowd, getting into drugs doing whatever he wanted when ever he wanted.. to the point he didnt know how to stand on his own two feet when he became an adult..and got into alot of bad things.. My father who had custody is a great dad, he had stricter rules, but he was fair.. and he taught us how to be good , responsible adults and how to also be better parents our selves ..but we still had fun and freedom with our mom every other weekend so i had the best of both worlds, but were in the more stable household with my father on a regular bases.. Good luck.. if u cant choose let a judge choose for you.. my oppinion u should go with your dad..
2006-07-13 15:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, how old are you??? Doesn't matter what age you are, you should never have been put in this position. This reaaly tears at me because my ex and I did this to our three beautiful children. (They are all okay and know how sorry we both are for ever asking them to choose) Hopefully your parents will realize what they are doing to you. Both of them must love you, hopefully your mom is just a little confused now. Whether they stay together or not is no reflection on you. It however will effect you. I urge you to stay strong and stay where you are offered the most stability. No matter what you do they will both love you, no matter who you stay with the other will miss you like crazy. I'm going to go call my children. Thank you, and God bless!!
2006-07-13 14:52:49 · answer #3 · answered by Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I am sorry you are in the middle of a mess like this, I know it is not fair. It sounds like you would be better off with your Dad, but you need to make the choice that is best for you because obviously your parents won't do it. Which ever you choose you need to make to other parent understand that you love them both and you want both to be understanding to your choice. Maybe try and tell them how you are feeling before you make the choice. Maybe they will see the reality of what this is doing to you and then maybe they will do their job as parents.
Good Luck Honey
2006-07-13 15:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose what you feel is best for your future. This is not about them, they will both still love you and those relationships will heal.
As hard as it may be, choose the parent who will provide better stability and security for you. It would be very responsible of you to have a parent who will take an interest in your life and want to know where you are.
While you may resent those things sometimes, it is crucial for you. Stay calm, it will be okay!
2006-07-13 14:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're really putting you on the spot, aren't they? I'm really sorry. I know that pain. Just ask them if you can move between them. If you can't, choose your dad. It seems like he can take better care of you. If your mom gets mad at you for it, she'll get over it. I think they're both being pretty uncool for putting you through this.
2006-07-13 14:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are but it is obvious that you can't please them both so you just have to figure out which parent you will be better off with...personally I would go with your dad...the part about your mom not coming home for days bothers me.
2006-07-13 14:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by marlio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwwww Hanni
sorry to hear your feeling so low and down
1st of all this is not your fault you have been put in the middle like a rag doll this is not good at all
your mum and dad should realize how are you are taking this and how much you love them both and by the sounds of it there are a few problems which are not your fault
maybe if you wrote them both a letter
telling them how you feel your emotions everything
but you must remember they have to put you 1st and your Feelings at the moment i bet there heads are all over the place as well but they have to realize you have feelings to
good luck Hun you are in my thoughts
respect
shaz
2006-07-13 15:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't worry about what upsets them.................You need to do what's best for you...............If your mom is gone for days, I would say you should stay with your dad. If nothing else, for safety reasons. A young girl/woman, does not need to be home alone for days. It's just not safe.................Just do what makes YOU happy and don't worry about how guilty they try and make you feel. Either way, one of them will be upset. ....................Try going to the BroncosFreak and asking those guys. They will help you. Tell them HD sent you.
2006-07-13 14:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by rumple stilsken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love them equally. Choose who you would be happiest with. I would choose your dad where he would be there every day. Try to relax and be happy. Let your parents be mad at each other, don't let it change you for the worse. Good luck.
2006-07-13 14:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋