Scared???!!!could it happen again?

Question

i am preganant by my ex. bf. we ere both drunk when we had sex i had a blood test,urine, and sonagram there is a heart beat so i am positive i am pregnant. this is second time he has gotten me pregnant last time i miscarried at 5 months and was depressed and upset lead to me partying and drinking to much and having sex with him again it was only that one night and now i am about a month along or little more. i dont really believe in abortion but am scared i will miscarry and go through a that pain again? am i at risk for another miscarriage since it's back to back with my last pregnancy by a month.?

my friend said i probably would make matters worse my ex. refuses to believe me?!i am scared

i dont think i can handle pain again

i am only 18 and last time was stressed like i am now and depressed like now not wanting to eat.

i am only 18 and last time was stressed like i am now and depressed like now not wanting to eat.

i have not drank sice the night i got pregnant is that still a problem.

Answer 1

Hon, keep in mind that your hormones are going crazy right now and making everything seem much worse than it is. Many women have healthy babies after having had a miscarriage. I have a friend that had two or three miscarriages and got pregnant very soon after the last one. She now has a beautiful little toddler son. My sister-in-law had one miscarriage, but also has four healthy children. Just focus on staying healthy and protecting yourself and your baby from harm. Keep an upbeat attitude and celebrate the new little one within you.

If you abort your child, you will always wonder if he or she would have been just fine. You will always regret it. Please make sure you have all the facts:

Photos of Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
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Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
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Stay strong, and don't do anything you will regret later.

Answer 2

If you want the child, try and stay healthy. There is a chance that there could be another miscarriage, but there is also a chance that you could become a mommy.
I recommend trying counceling, group therapy, or A.A... Alcoholics Anonymous.
Drinking isnt good and it leads to things like this, emotional pain and scars in your memory that won't go away. Days turn to weeks, weeks turn to months, and months turn to years. Drinking takes away many of the pleasures in life. Don't give your hopes up, and dont get your hopes up to high. But abortion isn't the problem solver in my opinion. This baby has a chance to live, it may be a small chance, but atleast let the baby have the chance. If it has a miscarriage, then don't get to upset. Don't get your hopes up high and prepare yourslef for it as well as you can. If you do become a mommy, I congradulate you.
Then again, you need to think. Should you have a miscarriage...? If the baby does live is it going to grow up fatherless. Will it has a pleasurable life or will it have a bumby path? Will the child look up at her/his mom, whos having a hangover?
I can't offer too much advise but this: Having a child is the end of your life, and the beginning of a new one. A miscarriage is a big choice, if your not responsible enough to make a choice, then you shouldn't have the baby. Right now your asking strangers to make a choice for you that plays a big part in your life and well-being. The answer isnt in these unknown untrustworthy hands. If you cant make the desision yourself at all, then ask a close family member. Don't leave out the details. Include your drinking problem and how it all happened. Tell the whole story. They will listen and tell you wise advise.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I had a miscarriage in March and WOW, it messed me up really bad. I had to get on anti-depresants because of course the mis carriage wasn't the only thing going wrong at that time in my life. My is different because I am married to a wonderful man. HOWEVER with my 1st pregnancy he did not support me emtionally and that put a lot more stress on me. The important thing is how long has it been since your miscarriage...it should have been at least three months to be safe. If you want this child, don't be scared. I am pregnant agian and because of the 1st mis-carriage I did not stop drinking and smoking right away because I thought stopping everything the moment I found out last time could have been what caused the miscarriage. Stressing my system so soon. NOW I am freaking out that I have drank and smoked for the first two months of my pregnancy and what could I have done. BUT my doctor told me, let it go. If you are going to have a mis carriage it is going to happen. Look at a mis carriage as a good thing, your baby would not have been healthy and happy had you given birth. That is what my doctors told me, a mis carriage is your body's way of saying NO this is not right. JUST BE HAPPY YOU ARE PREGNANT AGIAN, RELAX, REST AND PRAY. If you are meant to have this baby you will, if you have another mis carriage. TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL. Most importantly enjoy being pregnant and if he is your ex boyfriend leave it that way....You are not in love and he can be a father without being a boyfriend.

Answer 4

You are less likely to miscarry the 2nd time around, though I'm not familiar with the result in back to back pregnancies, the first ending in miscarriage. Did they determine a reason for miscarriage the first time around? I read somewhere that over half of all first pregnancies end in miscarriage. The chance of consecutive miscarriage actually goes DOWN if you've had one already. A third miscarriage, consecutively, is even more rare. If you don't believe in abortion, consider adoption. There's alot of couples out there that would be more than happy to have a child. I was adopted as an infant, and probably can't have kids myself (I've had two consecutive miscarriages due to endometrioisis). You really should consider getting into therapy and getting your life back on track.

Answer 5

First of all what is worse going through a miscarriage or aborting an innocent baby? Which would be harder for you to live with?

I have had three 1st trimester miscarriages aND on 2nd trimester ectopic.

Every time you conceive you have a one in four chance of miscarrying so it is not uncommon in the 1st trimester (although your 5 month miscarriage is MUCH less common).

I know it doesn't help but miscarriage is usually nature's way of terminating an unviable pregnancy.

I hope and pray that all will go well for you. Remember adoption is always a viable option if you are not ready to be a parent.

Answer 6

Miscarrying after the first trimester is not as common. Do you know why you miscarried? Was it something genetic? Most miscarriages are independent of one another, so its highly likely that you will carry this baby to term. I know a girl who is pregnant right now, she had a miscarriage in November and was pregnant again at the end of December. Her baby is due in 8 weeks. You're probably fine, but stressing isn't healthy so think positive thoughts. There is power in the tongue, speak positive things and see positive results. I'll keep you and your baby in thought. :-)

Answer 7

First off girl, I'm so so sorry for your first loss. I can't even imagine the pain you went through, as I am only 17 and have no kids. My mom miscarried a twin when she was pregnant with my sister, but my sister is ok, thank God!

Several of my friends (that are older than I) have told me that if you miscarry once, you are at a greater risk to miscarry again. I would recommend seeing an OB-GYN, because you need professional advice..... but follow every recommendation they give you to the letter, because doing so could save your babies life. I wish you all the best of luck, and email me anytime if you want!

Answer 8

Hun, look at this way....an unborn baby is a human life too. If you have an abortion, that is murder! Look at the comparrisons...would you rather kill your baby off or let god's will take the baby where it is destined. LIttle souls pick their mommies and daddies and it is up to you to make that happen. You would feel much worse if you had an abortion than that of a miscarriage. I am going to give you the website www.standupgirl.com nad they will help you. This website will tell you what you need to here. I am not being rude, just logical! Good luck with your decisions!!!

Answer 9

A misscarriage can happen to anyone at any time. I had a baby, then a miscarriage, then a baby. My aunt had 4 miscarriages. A friend of mine had a miscarriage, a baby, a miscarriage, then a baby. To tell you the truth everyone is at risk for a miscarriage. There is no real known reason why miscarriages happen. Keep faith, that it won't happen again, but it is based on how your body takes the pregnancy. If you are truly scared talk toyou doc.

Answer 10

Some are likely to miscarry again but in other cases 1 miscarry then successful pregnancy the 2nd go around...good luck