when men call you bad names when their mad and apolgize and say forgive him is that love?

Answer 1

NO, NO, NO, NO, it is not love. It is one of the worst signs of an abuser. I know. My ex husband did it to me. He gets angry and would call me names that I would not even call animals by and would turn around and say he is sorry, and ask for forgiveness. Get out and get out NOW. My husband after a while begin to get worse and worse. It started becoming a REGULAR thing. Name calling lost all of its luster for him and he jumped me and almost Killed me. I left him Permanently 2 hours after that. If the name calling gets started with or without you doing anything to provoke it. Get out.

Answer 2

It's human nature. Men AND women use anger and hurtful words to control others. It is something they learn as child and carry over into adulthood. They do it in their families, and they do it with their playmates. It doesn't mean that they don't have feelings of love. It is also something that can be controlled if a person really wants to.

Your question implies that this is something that MEN do, but in my experience it is more common for a woman to use bad names then men. Women will war with words, while men will soon resort to physical action.

Answer 3

well some men was raised in very angry homes so it just comes out just try to remember he may of had a hard life and he loves u but if he keeps it up ask him to stop tell him he makes u feel bad and if he still doesnt stop that isnt love at all

Answer 4

If a guy respects a lady, he gained't want or opt to call her any names that are disrespectful. i'd want a guy to exhibit me an same understand he ought to wish from me. If I truthfully had to %., i'd not like cun t getting used in any respect. I hate that word with a pastime.

Answer 5

If one claims it is, it's a sick kind of love, in my opinion.
I would consider it to be more like verbal abuse........and I wouldnt remain in such a relationship. Simply because it's an indication that he may lack respect for you, or women in general. In which case, the situation could escalate to physical abuse. Keep your eyes and ears wide open!

Answer 6

Even when he's mad... he should be mature enough to calm himself to a point to be civilized. Name calling is part of verbal abuse and not worth spending the time to hear the "I'm sorry" from his mouth afterwords.

Answer 7

well if that person call you name and still do it again and again that not love. if you call person bad name and you apolgize and then forgive me and it only one tiem that is love. but same time can't call bad names to woman.... can't do that. disrespect.

Answer 8

on a rare occasion people lose their temper and say ugly and hurtful things. males and females do this. if it is on a rare occasion which means once every few years then let it go. in normal arguments ugly words are said but not terribly hurtful. it depends what the words or phrases are which determines how bad it is!

Answer 9

IVE been w/ my husband 20+ yrs., we've been thru everything you can imagine, 2004 was our worst year, actually ONLY BAD one, why? because he vebally abused me.
He went thru a stage of drub abuse tht year and when he was on that crap he was so mean and abuseive, i would've never, EVER stayed w/ him all these years if he acted that way all this time, HELL NO!
but he's a loving and even too sensitive kinda guy so this was way out of chaaracter for him, \Meth. is a wicked drug and turns people in DR. Jeckle/Hyde wierdos and they will never cop to it, but i took pictures... serious, i carried w/ me a disposable camera and in the middle of one of his "verbal spouts" i'd snat a shot of him, piss him off MORE sometimes but worth it when i developed the pictures (all different days/times etc) and he could see for himself, how ugly he was when he was in "MONSTER MODE", so he HAD to admit how he treated me, and the thing is I know/knew he loved me, (I got ALOT of "guilt gifts" that year too!) he treats me like a queen any other time, never even amarrassed to spoil/pamper me in front of his/our friends, anything to "show his LOVE for me", but when he called me names and we were one of those ambarrassing/uncouth/no class yelling in the street, name calling/hollering/cussing out kind of couples you see in public every now and then i knew i didnt deserve it and i did get away, i stopped crying and started walking, no matter where we were at or what time, i'd get out of the car/truck and waalk home or to a friends (depended on how serious arguement/incident was) and most of the time he's make me get back into the vehicle but sometimes either i was too mad or he just didnt care enouph to make me get into car, he's apologize and sware he'd never do it again...yadda, yadda, (yeah right!) but untill he stopped doing "that" it continued.
your man might not be using, that is not what i am implying, i am only telling you my story cause i can relate to your pain and confusion.
i hung in htere, only because, i have never found him out to be unfaithful or has ever hit me, my 2 NO TOLERANCE do nots or im gone, no passing go and shove the $200.00 up...well you get it.
another thing or reason why he might be acting like that is guilt, THAT year he had every sign of being unfaithful to me (i never did find out anything) and the better/nicer/more loving i would be to him the meaner he would be to me!! go figure...i figured no one treats someone else like that unless they are feeling guilty about SOMETHING...
if it doesnt pass soon and you two cant talk it out and get past this stage, then i think you might have to let this one go
OH, how does his dad treat his mom? or anyone in his family...if thats jut how they are raised to be vrbally abusive, then they think this is normal behavior, how sad huh?
good luck.

Answer 10

No. that is verbal abuse and you do not need to take that from him. He will realize that he was wrong. Just remember that and when he ask u to forgive tell him your feelings were hurt. He will apologize and y'all will move on from there.