How would we tell someone that were coming out of the closet especially our family?

Question

Coming out of the closet...

Answer 1

Depends on how that family communicates. Sometimes, putting the news in writing is better than saying it face-to-face. Sometimes telling each member one at a time is better than as a group.

Answer 2

I would sit my family down at the dinner table, enjoy the dinner, and off handedly tell them I had been at the doctor's that day and was told I have fatal cancer, I have 3 months to live. I can guarantee a silence will fall over the room. After a short time, I would tell them that, "no, I really don't have cancer, I am not going to die in 3 months, I am only Gay." Again, a silence will fall over the room. IF you hear, "Gee, I liked the Cancer version better," you can safely say that your family would rather see you dead than be Gay. At that point, you will have some serious thinking to do. BUT, I would not drop this bombshell unless you are independent, have your own income, etc...for they might throw you out of the house, OR they will more probably say, "Well, of course you are Gay, we all knew that."

Answer 3

If I had a child that was gay, I hope he trusted me enough that he could tell me and know that I would love him and not judge him.
I love my children, when they do what I want and when they don't. I love my children when they meet my expectations and when they don't. I hope most paernts are like that.
Try to be true to yourself. Be who you are around your family. Be the best you you can be. People who love you, love YOU, not a straight or gay version of you. People who only love what they think about you, don't really love the you inside.
If you are in danger, with very uptight or judgemental family, don't put yourself in harm's way. But if it is just fear of disapproval, then go for it. Yes, they might disapprove, and you might help them to understand eventually.
We think my boyfriend's son is gay, and hasn't told us. We are pretty sure, since he lives with a guy roommate for 4 years and doesn't date girls. He is good looking and fun and 26 yo, so he must have some social life. We don't care one bit, and wish we would have a conversation about it. He is too embarrassed., so we don't bring it up. I love him, and hope he is happy. Good luck!

Answer 4

You should find out how your family really feels about gay people. If they don't seem so open to it, then i say don't come out to them. You don't owe it to anyone, it will save you a heartache too. But if you really need to or want to, then they will just have to live with it or get out of ur life.

Answer 5

Hey guys I like men. By the way whats for dinner.

Answer 6

Chances are they already know, but are waiting for you to tell. Just do it, it's the best thing in the world, regardless of the consequences.

Answer 7

be honest of who you are
in the middle of a conversation yell "im gay and proud of who i am and if you dont like it then so be it, i will move on and have a life while you roll in your grave and turn up your nose"

my friend/brother did it and i still love him for being him and not worrying about whose gonna ridicule him

Answer 8

That would depend on your age. I didn't "come out" until I was 34 and dating my first woman,lol,but I'm bi. My family,even my lesbian sister didn't believe me at first,but once they did,nobody ever died from it.

Answer 9

http://www.hrc.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Coming_Out/Get_Informed4/Coming_Out3/Index.htm

This web-site (linked above) from the Human Rights Campaign tells how you can "come out" to your family, friends, and even co-workers.

Answer 10

i have popular distinctive quite gay Asian adult males who swear to God that they are instantly. now and again its purely too glaring. in case your mom has already expressed that she suspects you're gay and that she hopes you're not from now on that purely may be her way of telling you that she is conscious you're gay and that she's no longer satisfied about it. Your brother likely thinks you're gay too so in case you experience closest to him then you definately ought to likely come out to him first in case you should come out to someone quickly. there is quite no basic thanks to bypass about it in spite of the indisputable fact that. whenever you go back out to someone you threat rejection. in spite of the indisputable fact that it type of feels that your household may imagine you're gay and they are trying to stay in denial by technique of protecting you contained in the closet by technique of putting forward such issues as "i'm hoping you're not from now on gay".