2006-07-13 07:02:57 · 26 answers · asked by hallcar_2000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
LET SEE HE NEEDS BOTH HIS PARENTSBUT IF HE HAS TO CHOOSE THE RITE AGE SHUD BE 15
2006-07-13 07:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by shishir s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The child shouldn't have to choose. The parents should be adult enough to provide a stable home for the child no matter which parent they're with. That said, if there is some compelling reason that the child wants one parent or the other, then I'd think they were capable of making this decision only when they are mature enough that their other decisions in smaller stuff were well-thought out and considered all consequences. That's a really big thing to choose. Some kids would be ready to make smart choices at 10 and other not till 18. I'd think it would best be left up to a non-partial judge.
2006-07-13 07:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Moolu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean legally, depends on your state, the maturity of the child, the custody investigator, and the JUDGE.
Some states wont even consider a kids opinion till about 13 or 14.
They dont take the situation lightly and changing custody is a big issue.
I have even seen some e Judges throw out the recommendations for their own opinion that he is looking out for the child's best interest.
By the way they wont consider opinions of kids at all if they think they have been " persuaded" by one parent or the other.
And 10 years old is way to young to have a sound opinion.
The best is if the child can be with each parent 50/50 if divorce is eminent and you stay living in the same city, neighborhood.
Better if you can negotiate it outside of court.
2006-07-13 07:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child should NEVER have to choose between parents. I speak from experience. That is why the child is the child, and the parents are the parents. Children cannot/should not make life changing decisions under any circumstances.
2006-07-13 07:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by candace f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally or not? Legally they have to be 12 years old to tell a judge which parent they want to live with. How do i know because i have a friend in the same situation.
2006-07-13 07:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the child's maturity rather than their age. You can have a very immature ten-year-old who needs much support and is unable to make such a choice whereas you can have a very strong-minded, mature six-year-old who knows which parent they want to be with and can give good reasons why.
You know your own child and what level their cognitive ability is at. I think you have to decide that, regardless of their age, do you feel they are mature enough to make such a choice?
2006-07-13 07:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the judge and how you represnt your self and who weell the parents cn support you.... supposing the parents have equal stautus... and your dressed nice and remember your yes and no sirs/mama's while in the court room the decision will be left up to you if your around the age of 12-13 years olf...my step sister got to decide at the age of 11 but I don't think that is common...also be ready because the judge will probebly take you into him chambers and "just talk to you" ... be strong with your reasoning and confident in your decision and you'll win!
2006-07-13 07:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by JeNe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally the law states that when a child is old enough to make the decision clearly, in knowing his own mind. In the UK this is seven
2006-07-13 07:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with an attorney in your area. Age limit isnt the only thing that is taken into consideration. The Department of Human Resources may even be able to answer your question.
2006-07-13 07:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by dlmooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the maturity of the child, around 10 they can tell whom they would like to live with.
2006-07-13 07:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state but I believe it's 14 or 15.
2006-07-13 07:05:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋