I'm afraid to tell my mom, 'I'm pregnant'!?

Question

I'm a eighteen-year-old senior high school student who will be done with school in June of 2007. My boyfriend and I have been dating two months and I am now one months pregnant. He is aware of the situation and is very supportive. My mother, however, is very strict and set in her ways. She reinforces all the time that I must not have sex with anyone until I'm married, and she has been asking me questions about whether or not I've had sex with my boyfriend. I am very afraid to tell her I'm pregnant because there is no telling how mad she will get. What do I do?!?!?!?!

Answer 1

Tell her honestly - she may get mad, but you never know, she might surprise you and be okay with the whole thing. Being a mom myself, I know that I would want everything to be perfect with my daughter's life, but I also know that nothing and nobody's perfect. A mom's love is so great and special - I'm sure your mom won't hate you or be mad at you forever, at least, if I were your mom, I know I won't stay mad forever. There is always that special bond that exists between mothers and their children - it never goes away even when the kids are all grown-up. Maybe if you come clean and tell your mom, she will appreciate the fact that you trust her and that you are honest with her. Sure she will be disappointed now but she'll turn into a proud happy grandma when that baby comes.

Goodluck, have faith that your mom will come through for you.

Answer 2

Look, I am 25 years old and pregnant and it was the hardest thing I had to do. (Tell my parents). My dad was awesome and very supportive but my other family members were less supportive.
1st decide what you will do. Having an abortion is very traumatizing and I don't recommend it.
BUT it is your choice. If you want this baby and have logically made a plan of action with the boyfriend then you need to tell your mom ASAP. Get it over with. The longer you wait the worse it will end up.
Think logically and when you tell her have answers ready forr her questions. For example, where will you live, will you get married, what will you do fo money, will you finish school , who will watch the baby when you are at work or school. Health care insurance....all of these things are serious issues you nee dto think about before you make a decision.
Good luck. In some way God has a plan for you, i really believe its true. God doesn't give you anything you can not handle...remember that.

Answer 3

I am going to tell you a few things now that you may not like to hear:

I could be all high and mighty about how STUPID you are for getting pregnant at 18, but that would solve nothing here and would not answer your question.

I guess the fundamental issue here is if you are going to keep the child. If the answer is yes, then your life changes completely and utterly. Should you choose not have the child, your life changes, but for a different reason.

As you know, there are limits on how long you can wait to have an abortion, and if you do not know that, I suggest you do some research NOW.

As far a telling your mom, you can bet she is going to be royally P O'd, but she probably loves you a lot more than the anger she is going to have that you may have just completely changed your life.

Melodramatics will tell you that you have ruined your life but that is not necessarily the case.

Soon your mom will know either way and I suggest that you tell her soon. She will stand behind you as you are her daughter. At least in a normal sense she will. You may live with Joan Crawford, I do not know.

At any rate I hope it works out for you. I know that you are in a difficult place and will need a s much support as you can muster.

Good luck.

TFTP

Daryl

Answer 4

You're eighteen years old. You have choices. If you and your boyfriend decide that having this baby is a good idea, then you should tell your mom about it. She'll be upset at first, but she WILL get over it and be supportive.
However, I am worried about the boyfriend. I'm very happy that he's supportive thus far. But, after two months, how much do you really know him? Is he responsible? Would he be a good father? Can you support the baby financially? These are all questions you need to answer before you decide on whether you should carry the baby to term and tell your mother.

Answer 5

I got pregnant my senior year. I delivered 1 week after graduation. I made every effort to be there everyday. I was afraid to tell my mother. She was mad, hurt, and confussed and to be honest she didn't talk to me for a few days. She had a family meeting with me, my boyfriend, and dad. Once it was out time heals everything. When I finally had my baby my mom was my right hand. To be honest it drew us closer together. First an mostly you must complete High School. That diploma makes a big difference. I am not going to lie it will be challenging in the beginning but it will be worth it in the end. I am now 28 and just graduated college top of my class. There is time. Good Luck honey, it will all work out in the end. Be strong for you and your baby. Men come and go, but you can be the rock.

Answer 6

Things are always worse than what they seem. Take your time, and get up your nerve to let her know, but don't wait too long. It won't make anything any easier. It won't be easy but whats done is done and you can't change the past. You're eighteen so it shouldn't be difficult to find a job so you can provide for your unborn child and you did say your boyfriend was being supportive. If you present it to your mother in this manner, that you're a mature young adult who made a mistake Im sure she'll be there for you. She may be disappointed but she's your mother and loves you Im sure. It may not seem this way now, but all will be well. Take care.

Answer 7

Well, from the sounds of it you are planning to keep the baby. That's fine. What's not fine is keeping it from your mom for too long. If she is already asking you if you are having sex with your boyfriend, chances are she already knows. Give yourself a goal - tell her by the end of your second month.

She is going to be mad/upset/dissapointed, etc. but you made the descision to have sex knowing that you could get pregnant so you have to face up to the consequences.

Since you are 18 (I hope that your boyfriend is 18 or older too, or you could find yourself in court charged with statuatory rape) she may ask you to leave home. Be prepared to tell her what you intend to do to prepare for this child and what you plan to do once the child is born. That will help her to know that you are not planning to pawn the child off on her when it is born. You should also consider giving the child up for adoption. There are many great people waiting to be parents. If you are set on keeping the baby and you work, now would be a good time to set aside a percentage of your paycheck for future expenses.

Also, keep in mind that even though your boyfriend may be supportive now he may change his mind once he realizes the commitment required to care for the child.

Good luck!

Answer 8

The first thing I need to say is that you are 18. In this world, you are a grown adult. If you're afraid of what she might do, get with your boyriend, and figure out where you two are going to live and raise this child.

You can tell, her and even though she might get mad, you should point out the fact that you are a grown woman and are responsible for your own decisions. If you can't stand up to your mother, how can you plan to be one yourself.

As far as college, there are plenty available with child care. Also, if your boyfriend is as supportive as he says he is, then he would be mor than glad to work something out. Like a schedule for who has classes and work. It may be hard to balance out, but it can be done.

The key is to have a plan ready when you tell her. Have your boyfriend by your side when you tell her, and when she's through getting mad and starts to ask questions, you can show her what a great job she's done raising you by being prepared.

Who knows? She may be so impressed that she'll help out with watching her grandchild once in awhile.

If worse comes to worse, you could always get help for taking care of the baby.

http://www.familyservices.govt.nz/info-for-families/familyweb/raising-children/financial-support.html

I hope that link helps.

Answer 9

You should have listened to your mom. She is your mom. Yes she will be ticked off because she done told you time and time again (why ya'll do not listen, only God knows) but you went out and did the deed and now have to pay the price. And usually moms can tell when their daughters are pregnant so you might as well tell her sooner or later. Why did you not use protection? I will never understand you kids these days. Parents tell you these things and you all do not listen and get all caught up in a mist.

Answer 10

ok your 18 ...so take a breath stress is not good on your body of the baby... you've got the two of you to worry about now. this is not the smartest thing to do get pregnant one month into a relationship and still be in school... you and your boyfriend need to set down both yours and his parents together at the same time and tell them!!! tell tehm you both agreed to have sex and this is the result and your ready and able to rasie this child together. have a plan as to how your going to make money ( job) and show your responcible ...worst case she'll kick you out and you'll ahve to stay with your bf or another family member or friend.... stay saving now so you'll be able to provide for your baby...those 7 months are going to fly by.... best of luck