I'm 16 and think I'm in love with my married neighbour!?

Question

I just turned 16 about 2 weeks ago. I've had feelings for my next door neighbor for about 4 months now. I've known him my whole life. He's 24 and married with 3 kids. He is having trouble with his wife. His wife knows about me and what is happening between me and him.



He now lives in his own apartment and still sees his wife sometimes. We have went all the way. I don't know if he loves me but he has told me that he cares for me a lot. He has also told me that he never wants to lose me. We're not together but I think I love him. I don't know the legal age of consent in Missouri but I think it is 17.


I really like him a lot and love being with him when I am. His wife is making him very unhappy and he is currently having thoughts of suicide and worthlessness. He said if he didn't have me then he doesn't know what he would do.


Do you guys think that there is any chance that he might get a divorce? He filed like 3 months ago and they both got the papers but niether of them signed. I mean I know that he might want to stay with her because of the kids but I don't understand how someone could be with someone that makes them feel so horrible about themselves. Do you guys have any advice for me at all??? Please. and thanx for the help.

Answer 1

you are not in love you are in lust and you are 16 leave him alone and let him be married. Find someone your age and dont mess up someone elses relationship

Answer 2

Oh baby girl at 16 you are in love with any guy that shows you a little attention. This 24 year old guy should be ashamed of him self by bringing you into his drama. He says he cares for you that is not the same as love. It means as long as you keep letting me be with you....I will care. And of course he doesn't want to lose you because you are his little puppet girl. Now if he has filed for divorce and no one has sign(that's what he's telling you) there's your sign there. Leave this grown, mixed up man along. His life is not your responsibility. It's is his. Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, if he is telling you these things like (if I loose you I don't know what I'll do) then he is just using you for the SEX!. What man that is having trouble with his wife wouldn't want to have sex with a 16 yr old who is infatuated with him, because you are not really in love with him, if you were then you would have waited until his marriage was totally over to have slept with him. It sounds like this man has no respect for women and is just using you for what he wants and to make his wife jealous. Have a little respect for yourself and break it off with this ****** user.

Answer 4

u have alot of wierd questions........ r u 16 or 18?..... u wrote u were 18 inone or u'r questons......... Y do u want to be a home wrecker at such a young age?...........U'r in high school find u'r slef a BF there leave the married couple alone........ u would like to be his wife and he left u for someoone that could be his lil sister?.......... I mean damn!! I my man did that to me i would make him feel like shyt also............ cuz just be him leaving her and being with u is more then enough to make her feel like shyt....... And the reason y none of them sign the paper is because they still love each other..... n they r not going to do it..... so tough luck little girl........ y dont u go learn to wipe u'r *** right first then go n try to find u'r self a Man ........ "Niña Culo Cagado"... Good luck By the way........have a nice day

Answer 5

Baby, your so lengthy question shows that you are too depressed . I being an elder and a friend advise to keep distance from such a person . You will disturb their married life. If you don't and go your own way there will be destruction of both sides. You just keep a watch over your studies

Answer 6

I know its not what you want to hear, but you are nothing more than a crutch for him. You are the reason he is not back with her. You need to dump him and get oon with your life. He is too old for you and has alot of baggage that you wont want to deal with down the road. Not to mention if you have sex with him, your parents can press charges against him for rape, with or without your consent, and regardless whether or not it was consentual. He is saying all of this to make you feel for him. He wants nothing more from you than to get into your pants and get a taste of that sweet young thing you have. He is a pig and using you. Tell him to get lost!

Answer 7

This guy is lying through his teeth. His wife is pissed at him and he wants sex. I don't think he wants to be with you. He's more chilish than you are and he is 7 years older. I'm six years older than my girlfriend. However, she is 22 and I'm 28. You need to live you childhood. Go out with the girls from your high school, anything.

Answer 8

wow that's a really tough situation--and i'm going to tell you right now, for posting this up-- you are going to get some NASTY reactions from people. :\ cuz we all know that makes everything a hell of a lot easier huh??

anyways-- here's what -I- think. first of all, I would say that you're not in love, it's more like you like him-- and maybe even a lust, but then i kept reading and realized you guys had sex. first of all, with that be VERY VERY CAREFUL. i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 23 (6 yrs. difference) and we make things work. my family knows about him that's the only difference between you and i, other than that married part and children, and when i read that you guys had sex-- i thought "he's still married, he has a wife and 3 children...what the hell is he doing?!?!?" he alone should know better-- and i'm sure you can agree with me on that.

what made it even more uneasy for me to read was that if i were in your position, i couldn't help but think sometimes that would he do this too me, what he's doing too his wife??? would he cheat on me, leave me?? those are serious questions to think about-- and i think you should really talk to him about it.

ask if he really plans on leaving his wife because of how unhappy she makes him (because even though i don't agree with everything that's going on in your life, what his wife is doing is no better. no one should make ANYONE feel the way she makes her husband feel. :\ ) ask him if he would EVER cheat on you, leave you, etc. ask him if he REALLY WANTS TO BE WITH YOU! that's the biggest part-- that he's not just fooling around with you, because you ARE young, just like me, and we HAVE to be careful. we HAVE to watch out for ourselves. talk too him about all of this, COMMUNICATE with him and see what you're getting yourself into.

another thing-- you're only 16 hun....you JUST turned 16 in fact-- and this is not a man on his own. this is a man who has CHILDREN. that's a LOT of baggage for YOU too deal with. you yourself are considered a child (i know, it's not want we want to hear) and you as a child cannot take care of a man's 3 OTHER children. i just really want you to think about this carefully. not just him, not just your guys' possible life together-- but you, alone. you have to deal with A LOT and someone so young-- we're just not ready to deal with things like these. if you and him are meant to be together, god will make it happen-- it's already planned for you.

in time, you'll find out what's meant to happen between you two and what's meant to happen between him and his family. just be careful hun-- don't get yourself in trouble and don't get yourself a reputation you surely don't deserve. i don't want you to be blamed for anything, especially for "ruining a marriage." and remember-- if anything turns for the worst, and this man tries to pin everything bad on you...it takes two to have sex. >:)

good luck sweetie!!!

Answer 9

wait i jus read ur other question where u said u were 18 n a month pregnant with ur bf of 2 months?? if ur THAT bored why do u check out myspace n stop makin up messed up stories for ppl to answer

Answer 10

he wont divorce her. he's using u. he's telling u this stuff just to have an easy piece of a s s . you aren't too young for love but you are too young to understand the game. hes gonna break your heart, sweetie, GET AWAY NOW!!!