2006-07-13 06:32:32 · 23 answers · asked by Ariyana S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
give baby up for adoption. baby deserves an adult to raise him/her.
2006-07-13 06:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl Im srry. I have never had this happen to me before but my cousin just did. Are your parents willing to help and does the guys want to stay? I would not give the baby up for adoption because the only way you will know for sure what will happen to it is if you keep it. I mean you could give it to a "nice" familly but then who is to keep it from being abused or worse. I mean if it is abused then it is either hurt or in the system which can hurt a kid too. My mom and I have talked a lot about this stuff. I am soo sorry you are in this situation. And let's be real...I am not going to yell at you or say you are dumb or whatever because you aren't. You made a mistake. By that I don't mean the whole having sex thing I mean yeah that may have been a little too far but why didn't you use a condom. I understand that it was probably a heat of the moment thing. I have had a few close calls myself and if you ever need someone to talk to email me t katlynnbrown@yahoo.com
you and I can talk and I will help in whatever way I can. I understand how hard it is to be a teen. I will be 15 in Dec. So yeah it will be a teen on teen talk.
Just remember People out there do love you no matter what. My advice is keep your kid.
My heart goes out to you,
your new friend
Kat.
2006-07-13 16:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by lollipop lips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, only you know the entire situation, financially, education, etc. Basically, you're just a 15 year old who now has to make a lot more serious decisions than most. I'd talk to a close older friend or family member who can help you make decisions. A baby is a beautiful thing, but that's hard to remember when you're tired all the time, your friends get tired of you having the baby around all the time (yeah, even my adult friends are this way at times), and you don't understand why the baby cries a lot and no one seems to help or know what to do, and everyone expects you to know just because you're female. It's difficult even as an adult, so I just recommend you get as much advice and support as you can get.
2006-07-13 13:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you haven't told your parents, do so now, especially since you only have a few weeks left before the baby comes. If your not on pre-natal vitamins or have not been to a doctor/planned parenthood or whatever, do so now to make sure you're healthy and the baby is healthy. Decide if you're going to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. A baby is a lot to handle at any age and they are expensive and time consuming. You need to truly think about the responsibilities of raising a child and realize that it is your job to do and no one elses. Time to be an adult and take responsibility for your actions! Good luck to you and your little one.
2006-07-13 13:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by misha1019 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your parents know- you're no doubt showing! If you haven't already, go to an OB/GYN. Then consider what your options are:
you could a) Keep the baby and give it the best life you can manage
b) put the baby up for adoption so it gets the best life it can have
If you are incapable of giving it above and beyond basic needs, and feel that you can't handle it, then go with b.
I think you now understand why you must make good choices- and not have unprotected sex. I hope your baby gets what it needs above and beyond, and has a good home NO MATTER WHAT.
2006-07-13 13:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really cant take care of the child properly then i think u should give it up after birth. if u want to go to college and all that then having the baby would be a real problem for a good education. if i think right u are probably not in school right now since u are probably big. but then what about the father does he want to keep the baby giving the baby up could interfere with what the father wants to do. i personally think that u should give it up so that someone who wanted the baby could take it and love it (not that u wouldnt) but the person couold give it full attention. also the baby will not be young and cute forever so u have to think about in the long runwhen the baby is old enough to go to college will u be able to afford it?
2006-07-13 13:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by spring goth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? You are still so young and have so much left to do in life to be tide down with a child. I got pregnant at 17 and my mom took me to have an abortion I didn't want to and was so angry. But I realized she was right. Even though now I am 21 with 2 kids. Just wait to have kids!!!! Now is not the time. Life is hard enough without a baby. Trust me. There is always the choice of adoption.
2006-07-13 13:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption --- the child deserves parents. More so, the child deserves at least a parent that knows how to make GOOD decisions. You're not that parent. Don't be selfish and keep this child. It's NOT about you (even though you think it is), it's about the child. You need to give the child a life and you need to grow up and get a life.
2006-07-13 18:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by flybaja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your family support system, I think it is best if you keep your child. Continue going to school. If you have to, enroll in a charter or alternative school that will allow you to have a flexible schedule so you can properly care for your child. Once graduated, continue onto college. There are many financial aid programs that will apply to you.
*Everyone has engaged in some sort of sexual activity at your age, they just did not get caught i.e. become pregnant
2006-07-13 13:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by msstephvalenzuela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a support group , people that will be there to help you weather it's your parents a local church or family preferable adults that ca help you with al the ups and downs of both pregnancy and mother hood ...I think adoption is some peoples cruch they get out of their resonciblities by handing over their baby... your childhood is now over grow up step up and get ready to become a mom...I don't want ot sound mean or rude but I can't candy coat reality... get that support group and try your best to raise that baby... you'll do fine ..and get on some good birth control....
2006-07-13 13:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by JeNe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you haven't told your parents yet - You probably need to so that they can try to help you out. Have you gone to the ob/gyn yet? If not - you'll need to schedule an appt and get put on prenatal vitamins. Good luck ... It's rough being a teenage mom!
2006-07-13 13:35:51 · answer #11 · answered by Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋