my husband i found out looks at and is a member of a dating service, he says they mean nothing, and that he doesn't know why he looks at the slappers,but i fel betrayed, like he is looking for something, he gets them in his e-mails, and says well he looks and joins. he says that no one could take him from me, but if he is looking be it false name or not he still is looking.help please am i wrong?he says he loves me but how can he
2006-07-13 06:14:04 · 15 answers · asked by zen4steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They call this "emotional infidelity" and it hurts just like the physical kind, some say even worse. I suggest that if he won't stop by choice, you go to counseling, even if he won't. You are not wrong in feeling hurt. You have a right to feel the way you do. How would he feel if he found you doing the same thing?
I hope you get things resolved. God Bless!
2006-07-13 06:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by nighthawk 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whoa he is the memember of that dating service. See I love my wife and I never do anything to her.... I do look in dating service and other things but I will never be a memember one of those. I think he cheating on you...find out how long has he been on, find out who all those women email him and what he said about her. Well, you not doing anything wrong he is. and does he know when he married you ????? what Marriage is means???? Guess he didn't know that... So I guess you tell him need to stop and no more and if he said no then you know that he really into somone and find out if women near around that where you guys live becasue gave fake name and can screw around women. and don't know what women have giving him and give you.
I would think very very hard.
2006-07-13 14:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is a "red flag" it could be something different then what some people thing. Men need attention... and they will get bored if you don't flirt with them or give them lovin'. I'm not trying to say its your fault but perhaps see what happens if you give him more attention. Alot of times in marriages the sex stops and sex is very important in a relationship... reguardless of marital status. What he might be saying could be true... and that he's just looking for some extra attention he's not getting. Try different things... If you have a good man and this is out of his character to do this kind of thing all it could be is that he's not getting attention.
2006-07-13 14:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by morrdak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person before me. My husband did the same thing after we'd had some problems having kids. He flat out told me that he was depressed and need to boost his self esteem. When he could not get it from me due to me feeling the same way. I would say that if you just talked to him like you were having a conversation with him and not like you were talking down on him he might open up to you. I don't know about you but it pissed me off more that my husband hid stuff from me. So I let him know that, and that I understood and I wasn't mad and now he feels he can come talk to me about anything and we don't have that problem anymore. If you are mad or upset though let him know, but don't be "forceful" with your voice when you talk, just sit him down and have a calm conversation about it. Guys tend to close up and shut you out when women yell or scream.
2006-07-13 13:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by acey_kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why on earth would u agree that women on a dating agency r slappers? surely the slapper here is ur husband, why dont u join an teach him a lesson?
2006-07-13 13:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him immediately - these reasons are more than enough. How dare he think he can get away with that when he's married. You've been too soft with him. Ditch him as this will only lead to him wanting more, ie- meeting up with these women. What a cheek he has got.
2006-07-13 13:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a guy got to catch some fun once in a while but I know u must be scared to the diseases he may bring home, so buy him a box of Condom
2006-07-13 13:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by adriano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right to see a huge red flag. He sounds like at the very least he's not as committed to your relationship as he should be. At worst he's setting the stage for convenient cheating. Presuming he hasn't already.
2006-07-13 13:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems that you are about to be replaced - that you have become obsolete.
People on dating sites are not slappers.
2006-07-13 13:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by emeraldisle2222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for self esteem boost that women flirting provide to men. He needs to find it other ways. Women are just the quickest and easiest way to get it. Or he is just a cheater (or soon to be). You know him better.
2006-07-13 13:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋