I have read a lot of your answers, " You wouldn't buy a car with out test driving it first would you?" And it seems that a lot of you think it is a huge mistake to wait until your wedding night. My question to you is why? It is like ice Cream. If you never had any, how would you know what you are missing.
Do you know how strong a person has to be in this day and age to wait. And if you put your mind to it, it is not as hard as it seems. I was a virgin on my wedding night. Until that night I had never even seen a man naked before. Now I am not saying that I was cold to my hubby before we got married ( we did a lot of making out & petting & he wasn't a virgin.) but, I told him if he loved me that much he would put a wedding ring on my finger. We got married a little bit over 3 years after we met. And we have an awesome sex life.
Think about it, how would a virgin know if there sex life was good or not? I think mine is wonderful.
2006-07-13 06:06:38 · 12 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never wondered about other men. All I want is my husband. I don't think I missed out on anything.
2006-07-13 06:10:23 · update #1
Let me say again. I was a virgin bride. I got married on July 7, 2001. I was 28 years old and still a virgin. My husband wasn't.
2006-07-13 06:11:22 · update #2
Not at all!!!
I am so proud of you for standing up for and not compromising your values.
What a gift to have given your husband!
Dont listen to those mocking the gift you gave. Dont listen to those who only wish they had had the forthought to have waited.
Most fall into the "well..I did it once..I cant go back..so why not just keep doing it" category and regret their choices and are jealous of those who did wait!
My hats off to you! I hope some who read your post who have not had sex can draw on your strength and commitment so they can have as rewarding a sex life as you have!
Best wishes!
2006-07-13 08:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful for you. However, I personally know a couple who are having LOADS of marital problems because they aren't able to have sex. Nothing medically can be done and they are miserable. If they had had sex before marriage, they would have known about this.
A virgin might not know what is good and what is not...but in a few years, after not having any pleasure...they might realize that they are not compatible at ALL with their choice of a spouse. Someone they are now bound to forever (or supposed to be).
Sex isn't the most important thing in a marriage but a happy and fulfilling sex life brings closeness and intimacy. Like nothing else can.
I'm glad it worked out for you and you are happy with your choice. ;)
2006-07-13 17:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to all of this is your happiness. You are happy, that is great!
The reason I advocate sexual freedom is that I believe you have to follow your desires (within reason) so that you not regret or feel that you missed out. It is very possible, that a man or woman with limited (or none) experience sexually before marriage may come to feel they 'missed out'.
You sound strong enough that even if you feel that, you will handle it properly. But that is the reason.
Congratulations for you and your marriage! It's probably the best perspective I've read on waiting for marriage.
2006-07-13 14:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong to wait until marriage. I test drove before I got married and married any way and got a lemon. I wish I had waited then just maybe I would have chosen the right person for me. Nothing wrong with waiting.
2006-07-13 13:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
-there is no good or bad anser; we all see the wold differenty. This concept of waiting for marrage goes back to religious values. I certainy wasnt the way us humans did it all those years. Do what you thinkis right, but folks should stop being judgmental.
Look, hundreds of years ago priests and the popes wer egetting married. There are no unchangeable rules. Glad it world for you.
2006-07-13 13:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!
I am only 16, but I am a virgin and determined to stay that way until my wedding night. But some of my friends have had sex with bfs and every one of them has been disappointed, esp when they break up.
2006-07-17 07:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you completely. My husband and I waited until our wedding day, and I'm so glad we did. The comparison to "test driving a car" really shows a debasing objectifying attitude towards your significant other. A sexual relationship isn't something you try once to see if it works, it's a RELATIONSHIP, that means it's something you grow together into, it's something you spend time on, and it's something that just gets better and better :)
2006-07-13 13:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by daisyk 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That will make people run out and get married before they are ready just so they can bust a nut. Hence our super high divorce rate from the baby boomers. People are now getting married later and later in life... divorce rates should get lower in the future.
2006-07-13 13:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe it's a HUGE mistake to wait. Don't get me wrong, I've only slept with 2 men in my life and I'm still with the 2nd one & I had long term relationships with both before the sex part of it. My first bf was a very very nice guy, had slept with about 4 women b4 me, but was a lousy lover. He was my first/only but I could tell something was missing. With my 2nd bf, we have chemistry! Talk about a difference. If I had married #1 I would have spent the rest of my life unfufilled & wondering.
2006-07-13 13:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
In this day and age,that really is quite a milestone.
You really are to be commended for maintaining your virtue for as long as you did.
Both You and your husband are very lucky people to have found one another...congratulations~*
2006-07-13 13:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by DG 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋