My ex-girlfriend, whom I have 2 children with, and I broke up 10 years ago.
She has been cheating on her now husband who found out about the affair and left her. He moved to a friend's house and refused to meet with her or return her calls.
She decided to take his vehicle, forcing him to contact her. The problem was she needed someone to drive her vehicle back. She told my 14 yr old to drive her vehicle back to the house. My daughter refused. My ex threatened to strike her and forced her to drive the car. My 14 yr old drove 15 miles down an 8 lane wide highway over a flyway onto another highway in one of the 10 largest cities in the country,.
My daughters were terrified. My 14yr old told me she was scared for her life. It was her first time behind the wheel and she was on a major highway without an adult in the car (my 12yr old was with my 14yr old).
The problem is that my daughter told me and she does not want me to get her mother in trouble. I am conflicted.
2006-07-13 05:43:28 · 19 answers · asked by BluntForceTrauma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is totally reckless behavior and very dangerous, not just for your daughters, but also for the other drivers on the road !!
I can appreciate how your daughter feels about not wanting to get mom into trouble, but this is beyond reasonable behavior. If your daughter is willing to tell the story to the police, you should file a report. Seriously. It shows that the mother is blatantly disregarding the safety of the children and you don't want to wait for another incident because the next time, somebody might get hurt.
2006-07-13 05:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-06-11 03:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is probably on crack for doing that and if not she's probably one of the most selfish people I have ever heard of. The only way you are going to win this one is if your daughter's) fess up to an officer as to what happened. You really need to talk to them and let them know that. You also need to be the grown up and do the right thing. She's not going to lose her mother she's young and doesn't quit know how the world works yet. That is absolutely absurd. Turn her in before she ends up killing one of the kids, God forbid. If you don't and something does happen, it will be you that has to live w/ that guilt wondering what you could have done to save them. If you can't do anything about it legally then you can't say you didn't try. Be a real father and step up to the plate. I know my dad would and he's a great guy.
Good luck w/ everything, I hope it all works out well and the kids are in good hands
2006-07-13 05:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by jso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, nothing can be done. Now if your daughter wrecked the car, then yes. You need to call the local Social worker's office and let if be known. Then they can watch out for stuff like that...I am sorry for your girls, that is scary. I remember my first time on the HIGHWAY, and I am still scared from time to time because people are not cautious of others....
2006-07-13 05:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by jessica r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the guy whos car she took deal with that part. You absolutley need to do something "official" about your ex putting your children in harms way. That's flat out endangering and if something would have happened your daughter would also be in trouble.
2006-07-13 06:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you prepared to custody of your children, because if you report her, the state will get involved. She is obviously an unfit mother. Your children are concerned about their mother, but as a parent you have to do what is right for the CHILDREN, not what the children think is right. Do seek a legal adviser and find out what your options are.
Best wishes.
2006-07-13 05:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your daughter you will let this one time slide and tell her tell seriousness of what could have happen and to never get into another car without a license or the experience that goes with driving and no matter what your ex will get into trouble if she even thinks about putting one of the kids into a car and you mean it
2006-07-13 05:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by TEXXBRATT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know any lawyers? I suggest you contact one immediately so this woman can't take the kids. She's proven with this act that she can't act rationally and it is obvious your children need to be kept away from this loose cannon. I'm sorry you and your dear children have to deal with this. A lawyer can advise you as to what legal action you can take. Call one today, and best of luck.
2006-07-13 05:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could call family services and not say who you are! If she is willing to put the children in that kind of danger to help her out for a fault of her's, then who knows what she is going to do next. I wouldn't trust her to use your children again. By calling family services they will go and investigate it at least. They won't tell who called them, you don't have to say who you are, and that way your daughter won't be mad at you, but at least you can be happy that you tried to protect your children. Think about it this way. What if you do nothing and she attempts something else and your children get hurt? You will blame yourself for not at least trying to do something. Family services my do nothing but at least you tried. Good luck with it all!
2006-07-13 05:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by nalerij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she put your children in danger and let a child who isint even old enough by law to drive...Drive. Have her arrested and cut the visitation off for the well being of your children.
2006-07-13 05:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by italianprincess_fl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋