I'm not married but i sure do hear alot of horror storys,"is it that bad".I want to be married everyone says it's the biggest mistake i'll ever make.I know some of these answer will say 'i don't regret being married".Or my husband or wife is the best thing that has ever happened to me.I'm not stupid nothing is perfect.So once again i ask,,,What is the biggest regret you have of being married?
2006-07-13 05:13:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gues you can say my biggest mistake was believing that my husband was being as honest with me as I was with him. I believe that if I had dated him longer than a year I would have discovered his true feelings on things.
I revealed everything about myself and when we married he had no suprises. He on the other hand withheld some things about himself and now that we have been married for 4 years they are major issues.
For instance I told him just before we got married that I had just been diagnosed with fibromyalgia (incurable condition that causes unbearable pain at times and extreme exhaustion all the time). I told him that if he wanted to back out I would not blame him. He told me that he loved me and that he would take care of me. I am not a lazy person so I do push myself to do as much as I can to care for our 2 and 3-year-old children, but he is never happy. He tells me that it is my job to keep the house clean, keep the kids, have dinner ready when he gets home, and look good all the time. Now he is moody and complains all the time and I can't satisfy him.
He told me he loved me because I stimulate him with my convesation and I am intelligent as well as beautiful. The things we used to talk about he has now told me that he doesn't want to talk about and when we do talk it is him doing all the talking and deciding and me just listening. Now that I have gained a few pounds he will only allow sex once a month. It is not like I am grossly overweight, I still get compliments on my looks, but I am not a size 6 like I used to be.
He also forgot to tell me that he likes eating raw meat and boiled beef fat.
It really rots living with someone who thinks that you are stupid and lazy.
2006-07-13 05:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by happybujok 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think everyone is made to be married, some people never learn the traits of being in a relationship let alone carry on years of a bound marriage.
If you have never experienced it, you will never know if it's right for you. I think until you find the right person, it would be hard to pass judgement on marriage.
I am a person who tries not to regret any choices that have been made. Afterall they are in the past, what's the use of thinking about it? But I regret not speaking my mind when I had issues with my husband at the first few months of our marriage. I led him to believed everything was fine cause I wanted so bad to be the bigger person. I hate conflict and we rarely fought. But by suppressing my feelings, it blew up in his face and we had a real problem. If I could do it again, I would have brought up the issue when it first made me uncomfortable. I don't have that problem now but it has affected my husband because he is cautious about me, which can be a good thing.
2006-07-13 05:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married is like taking a bath. After you've been in it for awhile, it's not so hot. After a few years your sex life converts over to oral sex. You just sit around and talk about it. The most differcult part is getting to know an understand your mate. That's because a womans mind is like the weather. It changes all the time. Thats why manufactures had to put arrows on all their boxes, and still say. "This End Up" The biggest reason why marriages don't last is because they forgot why they got married. From all of that you can come up with all kinds of regrets. For me, marriage is like a bottle of wine. It just improves with age. I can tell you all of this because my wife and I have been married for 45 years. I can also say, that accomplishment was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, and it will be the same thing for you.
2006-07-13 05:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Richard M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a day to day basis, being married is great. But the reality is that it's very hard work to keep a good relationship. It's easy to get into a rut, where you hardlytalkto tthe other person except about the grocery list or what chores need to be done. Then you get into a sex rut where you feel like you should have sex, even though you don't feel like it..... it's tough. The only regret I have about being married is that i wish I had waited a little longer and matured a little more....youth is a selfish time and that's not good for a marriage.
2006-07-13 05:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with a man for 17 years of which 12 we have been married. We dated for 5 years. I guess my biggest regret about being married is not having the care free attitude...it is all weighted down now with responsibility....which means we must grow up at some point...but I long for the attention that we use to give to each other when we were not married. I think a lot of marriages only have one person pulling the wagon, which makes it difficult for affection and loving attention.
2006-07-13 08:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by electric_kisses_hugs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My biggest regret? I married way too young, did not explore and have some fun first. PLEASE do that first or it will come back to haunt you ! I am now 40 and wish I had had some fun before getting married. If I had a magical button that could turn back time I would have waited until I was at least 30 to marry. Ahhh but such is life.
2006-07-13 05:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not having drawn boundary lines IMMEDIATELY with inlaws and held tight on enforcing them as a couple.
Other than that.. no regrets! Happily married :)
20+ years
Is that what you wanted to hear? Or were you looking for more knock down drag out problems? Sorry to disappoint.
2006-07-13 08:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't regret being married. I love my husband and wouldn't trade him for the world. We have had some major things happen to us, but we still love each other and work everything out together. Life isn't always perfect, but I wouldn't change it. We have both matured and adapted to what life throws our way.
2006-07-13 05:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by cseehausen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as frank sinatra's song goes... "regrets i've had a few but then again to few to mention... i did what i had to do and saw it through without exemption." yes, marriage is indeed not perfect but then again marriage is neither a bad thing also. If you wanna get married (if you think and feel that this person is the right one for you) then by all means marry that person.
2006-07-13 05:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by mysticseadolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering my marriage ended horribly. I honestly regret the whole thing. There were warning signs that the marriage wouldn't work from the beginning. However, I didn't listen to them or realize just how terrible it would end up being...
2006-07-13 05:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by la_diablita_1999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋