only serious ppl,wat should i do?

Question

i've been with my bf for over 2 months.he's a guitarist and these days he's preparing for his 1rst solo.the thing is we didn't go out together for over than 2 weeks,and i didn't hear from him for three days.whenever he's online his status is busy and doesn't even say hi or that he misses me.he doesn't answer my calls and didn't even try to call for just 1 min to say hi and check how i am.i understand that he's busy with the band,but i mean it won't hurt to check on me for at least one min a day.why do we make them our priorities and the centre of our universe while they don't give a damn and r the last thing they care about after their friends and music our football or watever?!!!should i wait until he calls?(notice that whenever i call to chek on him he hangs up saying thet he'ld call me later coz he's busy)

i know that he still likes me bec he talks about 24/7 with one of his friends who happens to be a friend of mine too.

Answer 1

don't call him any more wait til he calls u he so so so so busy i do understand some times they don't have 1 min (artists) but he doesn't sleep? he doesn't go the washroom ? he can of curse call u for 1 min in 3 days ol u have to do just don't call him ne more let's see will he miss u if he didn''t ...don't give a damn go for sommon else

Answer 2

Maybe I can offer an answer. I was in a band for several years. The band becomes your family, your mistress, your life. Nothing else matters. Maybe the dream of success, fame and fortune over rides everything else. If it's a hard working band, you have to rehears, then perform at night, every night. When traval enters the picture, the band travals together. Little space for girl friends.
Then there are the groupie's. He may be adjusting to his new found fame, and riche's, and wants to leave the door open. If he honestly cares for you, he will be there eventually.
I had a girl friend with a four year old boy. A job, and a life. I was out of the band at the time. Got a call from the manager of the band, said they needed me to replace the old bass player. I left every thing to go play music.
My suggestion is; don't sit around and wait. You deserve a life like everyone else. What will be, will be. If he cares for you, he'll show up. If not, lesson learned.

Answer 3

If you plan on sticking with this guy long term than you better find a way to put up with what is going on right now. He has priorities right now that kinda puts your relationship in the background for the moment. Relax! He still loves you doesn't he? You got a great thing going here, why mess it up? Like you said he is trying to do his first solo and that ain't easy!
Try to be encouraging to him. I bet you'd get more attention if you do. Find a way to be helpful like cook for the band!. This way he is around and more appreciative of your efforts because you are in his corner. Don't think for one minute that he doesn't feel the pressure coming from you about his lack of interest, he just can't deal with that and the pressure of the upcoming solo too!
Take a real interest and what he is trying to achieve here and don't be so mamby-pamby and insecure!
Become knowledgeable about the music he is into so you could maybe express some ideas that would contribute to the cause. It will all work out if you use a positive approach instead of a negative one. Be supportive!

Answer 4

That is the question you need to ask yourself! Why are you making him your priority and the center of your universe when he doesn't give a damn about the relationship? Don't wait until he calls - move on and start finding other dates without even telling him. And let me tell you, it isn't just you - I have a friend who loves guys who are in bands, and she's been through plenty of guys who've been all over her for a week and then could care less about seeing her, but still string her along with head games, telling her that they want to see her. I've told her a million times - it isn't you, it is the guys you choose to date. And the fact that you waste your time hanging on to guys who obviously aren't looking for relationships. You are doing the same thing. Stop trying to date guys in bands, they won't give you the admiration you want. Move on and find someone who thinks of someone other than himself at times. Don't play his game.

Answer 5

i play guitar. had a band. my dad did too. i want to tell you to just wait and he'll be there when he's ready. but you may not want to wait. and he might be more like my dad than i am. when i got married i quit the bar scene( i play at home with the recording stuff and all that). but my dad played in his band until he was well into his 50's. after my mom left him, i was sure that he had a girlfriend on the side with his new wife as well.
that's probably not what you really wwant to hear, and i like to think i'm in the majority of most music people. my dad is just a really bad example.
but maybe you have nothing to worry about either, my dad used to call sometimes and say he loved her and all that. but maybe that was just out of guilt and your bf doesn't have anything to fell bad about. maybe he's just an airhead musician like me and forgets to call. i know how that is. i think a lot of music people have that a.d.d. or something. anyhow. if he wants to play in the band and he's gone a lot then your just going to have to get used to it. if you want someone to be around all the time and hang out with you and stuff then the music guy is probably the wrong choice of people. find a nice carpenter or mechanic or something.

Answer 6

I think it would be best if you found another boyfreind. I know that may seem harsh or drastic, but really these are early signs of what your future relationship. If he can't spare even a minute that's not a good sign at all. I suggest you find someone who will be more than happy to talk with you even when he is busy.

Answer 7

You need to get a life of your own. Sounds like you want to compete with his music. You will loose so go and find an interest of your own and persue it. You will not miss him so much, you will have something to keep you busy and you just might make yourself a more interesting and desirable person if you are not so needy and clingy.
\2 months is not a very long time do not invest so much of yourself so quickly you will get hurt, guaranteed so get a life of your own and you will not be so desperate to make him change his.

Answer 8

Unfortunately when you make someone the center of your life your sure to be the last thing on their mind. Ever treat a guy like he was the last thing on your mind ? Those guys make you the center of their world. This guy isn't really into you. Stop calling him and move on.

Answer 9

The next time u see him sit down and talk lock yourself in a room and make sure he listens tell him if he doesnt change you guys career as a couple is over.

Answer 10

Perhaps he's not as into you as you are into him.

If you really want attention, move on and find someone who's willing to spend their time on you because your current boyfriend obviously has other priorities that come first.