Any suggestions on how to shut the current wife up? She tends to think she can handle his baby mom business.?
I AM NOT MARRIED TO HER. SHE DOESNT CONTROL ME. and I refuse to deal with her. Since then he hasnt seen his kids in 7 months, except for visiting them at school during school hours, which she finally admits to telling him to do that. HOW STUPID and by the way recorded.
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I have no ties to her, I cant stand him because of the way he ignores the girls which used to be the world to them. How does she think she can handle me like that.
If this doent get resolved then it's going to get ugly. I am not a hard person to get along with, but you will respect me as thier mother and i will respect you as his wife. I feel like she needs to GET IN HER PLACE, like i have, LET me add, i dont have this problem with my sons father and his wife, nor do i have this problem with my boyfriends childs mother ( and he spends alot of time with us beiing that he is 15 months old) WE HAVE A RESPECT AND GET ALONG FINE.
2006-07-13 05:03:09 · 6 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
30 yrs old
2006-07-13 05:11:52 · update #1
Seems like to me that you have a lot of problems in this area, as for background i read other questions that you posted.
In my opinion:
1. She doesnt like you and she never will. In her mind you are a threat and that is something she will never admit to herself. You will always be a problem to her. Nothing YOU can do to change that. She is insecure.NO DOUBT
2. He needs to be a man and put her in her place as well as you.
She seems to have no respect for her husband ( call me old-fashion but a man authority in the relationship and in this situation he is the only one that can put a stop to all of this since she is acting foolish. But honey from the sounds of it, if he aint done it now ,he will never do it, and he suffers the relationship with his kids ( because of her). They will get older and see for themselves.
3. I dont blame you for being angry, you must be a single mom, doing all you can do to raise productive citizens. The best advice i can give you for the kids, DONT MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIM. When they are old enough to talk on the phone and dial numbers, let them call him and let him have to give them the excuses. They will eventually loose interest, respect and confidence in him. And that will be his fault. LIFE lessons are hard, but they have to learn that you cant make anyone love you.
It sounds as if your ex is large part if thier lives, that is great and your current fiance should also. I am sure you are providing positive enviorments for them and it will pay off in the long run. Keep doing what you are doing.
4. We all have places in life, we have to recognize it and get there. we cant have all the things we want therefore we cannot control everything. It sounds as if she hasnt gotten this lesson.
My husband has 2 kids from a previous relationship. I have never had any problems with thier mother. For a while,( until she was comfortable), she would only ask for him and want to speak to him. I understood as i am a mother too. She eventually would just tell me what was going on and didnt speak to him. I always repect my husband on the decisions that he and her make when it comes to thier children. I dont alwyays like it, but that is life. He does take into consideration my feelings,but ultimately its his decision and i live with it. He has never overlooked me or included me on the side. THAT IS THE BEAUTY OF IT ALL.
5.Keep your intergrity. Its not worth fighting over. But i feel your anger.
6. She might be a little envious of your accomplishments and the accomplishments with the kids, that she wasnt able to obatin.
STAY STRONG...................YOU ARE DOING IT ALL RIGHT
It obvious you have moved on with your life. Let her be an example to what not to let happen in your new one. Dont let unnecessary stuff cause fushion in your relationship. Accept the things that you cannot change, and change some things about yourself.
2006-07-13 05:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Old Red 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't really understand what you are asking. Are you jealous of the new wife because she will be there around the girls? Have you ever thought that maybe he don't come around is because he is tired of you dogging his wife and as long as he sees them at school then he don't have to deal with you. What did she admit? Is she admitting to saying them go see them at school? If so think about all that...its you not her, she is trying to keep peace. You all need to make some kind of peace for the children. You are acting like children yourselves and hurting them in the long run...Grow up!! Get some kind of visitation drawled up and that will settle when he sees them. You got to realize too that....that is his wife and she is a big part of his life now rather you want her to be or not.
Was you sleeping with him when he was married to her? If so then she has more right then you know..you had a child with her husband and I would be very upset too. I would understand why she don't want him around you if you having been having an affair.
2006-07-13 05:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how stupid are you to antagonize the wife. Don't you know that she is the one in controll here. you may not be married to her but he is and that is gonna come into play like it or not. you see what has happened afterward he doesn't come see the kids and we all know who is at the bottom of it.
I understand your attitude but it is not working in the best interests of your children. To say that you will not deal with her is foolish you WILL deal with her, directly or indirectly on good terms or on bad terms that is the way of it when baby'daddy's wife is in the picture. She is not like the others and why should she be. Everyone is different and reacts differently. She is probably very upset that you have children by her husband no matter how that came about. She might not be right either but you do have to deal with her.
You need to stop sleeping with other women's men and then you would not have these problems
2006-07-13 05:11:47 · answer #3 · answered by digimutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a real mess, the only you can do is try to understand each persons position and why they think and do what they do once you do that put yourself in her place then you might be able to better understand her and respond without getting into a major cat fight.
2006-07-13 05:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really sure what your talking about .....your ex husbands new wife trying to handle you?? hmmm i don't know but fighting only hurts the children so just try your best be the bigger person and get over it ..for your kids sake!!
2006-07-13 05:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit having so many babies with so many people then.
2006-07-13 05:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋