If you love someone and they love you does it really matter how long you wait to get married?
2006-07-13 05:02:16 · 8 answers · asked by cajuncutie71 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't say it was a good idea to marry someone after a matter of days, but you don't have to wait forever either. 6 months to a year would be fine!
2006-07-13 06:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it does matter how long you wait. It's possible to love someone, but be incompatible. That's not something you know right away. You need to spend enough time together to see how each of you handles stress, illness, money, parents, religion, etc. When you are first dating someone, each of you is on your best behavior and you tend to overlook any flaws the other may have. Some of these flaws you will be able to live with, but some may be deal-breakers. Marriage should be for a life time. Don't rush into it!
2006-07-13 12:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take some time. If you really love each other waiting a few months shouldn't matter but it will give you more time to make sure it's actually love and not just something new and you think you are in love. I proposed to my wife one month after we met. It lasted 12yrs. We are now separated. She had changed over the years. I still love her and want her to come back. I believe she stopped loving me when her two children from a previous marriage where old enough to move out of the house. Just make sure it's really love.
2006-07-13 12:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by scheib65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I waited two years to get married the first time. It was an utter disaster that ended bitterly.... My second marriage we dated only a couple of months. Seven years now of the strongest, most fulfilling relationship imaginable.
It's not how long the two of you have been together. It's how much maturity you have. Marriage in youth seldom works out well, even if the "marriage" endures. There is too much changing, too much growing going on.
Wait until you know the person you're going to be, and the person he will be, 20 years from now. If you're not certain of that... it's too soon for marriage.
2006-07-13 12:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible tells us to marry! If you are in a committed relationship, you should marry BEFORE you live together, BEFORE you have ANY children OR SEX! Pre-marrital sex is a SIN! Living together outside of marriage is SIN! You don't want to sin now do you?
Everyone sins...but this one can be helped.....just don't Live together....don't have sex.....and DON'T bring ANY children into this world WITHOUT being married FIRST!
Jesus says so!
2006-07-13 12:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING.
They will bring up all kinds of issues that you've never thought about previous to getting married. Only a fool gets hitched without pre-marital counselling.
2006-07-13 12:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by grandmastacos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't, but you would be better off to wait because of the fact that you could get to know everything about each other.
2006-07-13 16:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by mylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart
2006-07-13 12:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋