Im 20 years old?

Question

and I dont know how to tell my mom that I am pregnant. alot of people say that I'm old enough not to be scared but I dont know how she'll take it. I'm still in college and I know that she would much rather for me to graduate from college first. I dont know how to tell her. Me and my mother never had a really close relationship and as a child she abused me and it's hard for people to understand that I dont feel comfortable saying hey mom I'm pregnant. When I first got my period I didnt even know how to tell her I just wrote her a note. But I feel like I'm to old to write notes. I keep asking my boyfriend to tell her with me and he told me that I need to do it. I dont know how to tell her anyone have any suggestions?

Answer 1

Well she will eventually find out. I would do the old fashion way and pull her over and tell her. Life doesn't have to be so difficult. She is a mom and most likely cry first then realize that she will have a grandchild. If you dont feel comfortable then write a note. I know that sounds like you are 12 again but hey, it might give her a second to breath and talk to you. COngrats btw. You will do fine and you have to take care of you and your child. Everything else will fall into place.

Answer 2

Well, if you really feel that uncomfortable maybe you SHOULD write her a note? There is nothing wrong with a nicely worded hand written letter. This way you can tell her that you are afraid of what she might think and want her to except that you are pregnant even if it wasn't exactly like either of you wanted. Also this might give her a chance to think about it before she or you call her. Maybe you could write the letter and give a date that either you or her will talk. Either in person or on the phone. It probably would be better to have your man there especially if she has abused you in the past (?) I don't have very good relations with my biological father and I wouldn't go anywhere near him without my hubby by my side. (He never abused me or anything, it's just a long story) If your man won't go with you, maybe if you have a very good friend that you can trust, who won't tell everybody what is going on to your whole school. There is no reason why you should have to go to your Mom alone. (Especially if you don't have a great relationship with her) If you wait too long she may be upset that you didn't tell her sooner. I guess it's a vicious circle!

Good Luck!! (With your pregnancy AND telling your Mom)

Answer 3

I went through almost the exact same thing when my girlfriend (now wife) got pregnant when I was in college.
You just have to tell her. It's the only way. And then good or bad, at least it's out in the open. You can't control her reaction.
I asked my mom to come sit down at the table with me because there was something important that I needed to tell her. It sets the mood right so that you can tell her without a lot of lead up to it. But make sure you know what you are going to answer when she asks what you are going to do now. Are you getting married? Will you be finishing college? That's what she will probably ask you.
You can also ask your boyfriend to come with you if you want to.

Answer 4

You need to brace up and come right out and tell her. Let your boyfriend know that he should at least be there to support you, but you will do the telling. This will show his commitment to the situation as well as yours.

This is an important time in your life and you can't have this looming over your shoulders. Everyone will feel better if its out in the open...even if you don't get the response you like. Who knows, it might make you and your mom closer.

Finish your education, too! Important! It will be hard, but you can do it!

Answer 5

no one is ever to old to write there mother a note.I'm 32 and i still write my mom little notes every now and then.i think that a note would be the prefect way to tell you're mom that you're Pregnant.
you don't have to start the note hey mom i'm pregnant.just start the note.Hey mom how are you doing?i'm fine but i have some news to tell you.I know that you wanted me to finish school and all.but i'm going to have a baby.i hope that you'll be happy for me.cause i'm happy that i'm haveing a baby.good luck

Answer 6

I would say pick up the phone and tell her you are pregnant. You should also tell her how you and your boyfriend plan on taking care of yourselves and a baby. I don't think it is something you should tell your mom in person because of her violent past. You are pregnant, you are going to be someone's mom, I say it is time to start acting like it.

Answer 7

I've been in a similar situation. I told my mom that I was pregnant and happy about it. She could choose to support me and be actively involved with me and my child or she could criticize me and miss out on spending time with her grandchild. She became supportive in a hurry. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Just tell her and if she is supportive then great, if not then her loss!! You have survived this long despite her and i would not worry to much about your mother as she did not think of you when she was abusing you. Good luck!!

Answer 9

he needs to be there with you he needs to be a man what if she tries to hit you your PG theres gonna be a time of silence between you two but hey its better than not telling her and just letting your stomach grow and notice on her own

Answer 10

Just tell her, I mean there is no better way than just telling her like it is. Of course she will be disappointed, but its better to tell her than for her to find out on her own.