I'm scared of getting pregnant again because my first delivery was such an awful experience.Can anyone relate?

Question

I had a emergency c-section with my first child. I found the whole experience extremely terrifying. I honestly thought I was going to die. My husband and I would now like a second child but I fear getting pregnant because of the birth-processing. Now I know that many woman have had c-sections. Was the experience the same for you as it was for me?

Answer 1

Here's a horror story for you:

Got pregnant - without knowing (using a diaphragm). I just suddenly became so sick the docs were checking for everything from kidney failure to liver cancer. Finally found out I was pregnant with TWINS. Carried for 4 months, and lost one. Went the rest of the pregnancy with chronic massive ear infections, kidney infections, too much sugar in my urine, threat of spina bifida with my surviving baby, far too high BP (day of delivery it was 220/170!!!), water retention to the point of my ankles splitting open & bleeding, a MONTH of pre-term labor (contractions 5 min's apart, starting Dec 1-Dec 29), finally BEGGED the doc to deliver, got induced (broke my water for me & used pitocen), finally delivered, tore my cervix and a massive tear in the vaginal wall, post partum hemmoraging, baby barely hanging on with double pneumonia from Verricella virus (chicken pox) I contracted during one of my daily visits to the doc's before delivering, then I got chicken pox at 24 and was sick with that for FOUR weeks, and then the baby's father left on deployment for 8-1/2 months!!!!!!! (this is a no-sh!tter of a story folks!).

Emergency C-Section??? BRING IT ON!!!

Answer 2

Both my kids were born by c-sections. I was an aged mother to begin with (35 my first time and 39 the second) and it was deemed safer. For your peace of mind, both you and your husband can discuss this with your doctor. The experience was terrifying the first time because you were not prepared for a c-section at all.
My sister in law got in into her head that she wanted to birth her first child the traditional way, and she endured the pains and everything that goes with it, but as it turned out, both she and the baby started having problems, the baby had actually crowned and the OB had to push the baby back in, and start an emergency c-section with him making the first incision while they were paging a resident to assist. Her experience was quite painful and she also insisted on keeping the baby with her all the time and trying to nurse it. As a result she never got enough rest and she was completely washed out when the time came to go home. Her mom stayed with her for two weeks. Her second child was scheduled for c-section from the start, and she recovered in a flash because the baby was kept in the newborn crib section of the maternity ward and only sent to her a few hours every day so she could recover.
Not all pregnancies have to be as traumatic as yours. A positive attitude and more information do go a long way.
Unlike the USA, in Mexico the majority of the women prefer the c-section over traditional birthing. I personally found it more relaxing since I knew the process, and was able to talk to my OB, the anesthesiologist and the pediatrician about just anything while the c-section was going on.
Unless getting pregnant is a life threatening condition for you or your child, go ahead, keep a positive attitude.

God Bless You and Good Luck

Answer 3

I can kind of relate to what your saying. My first pregnancy was horrible i vomitted all the time always had braxton hixes never had enough energy to do much of any thing and if that wasnt enough i was induced because of being type1 diabetic. Well i got poticin too much too fast 29 hours most of which was active laborand then 31/2 to 4 hours of pushing i didnt think it would ever end. It was horrible and what i thought at the time the worst day. But 4 years later it was worth every second.And my husband and i decided to have another and i was sooo scared cause i thought oh my gosh, it's going to be just as bad there going to put too much potocin in ..i dont know how to deal with it any better this time. Well sure enough i was completely wrong. Our second daughter was 10-12 hours of labor and 4 pushes and she was out. Barely any pain. It was the perfect laboring and birth.

So what i am trying to say is dont be scared just because the first one wasnt the best experience.

Answer 4

No, I can relate a bit but in a different way, I lost my baby several months back and I wanted another baby and was scared to try again as for fear of loosing another, I know am 4 weeks pregnant and My doctor assures me that no 2 pregnancy's are the same, meaning that you may have had a bad experience with your last BUT your next one could very well be normal and wonderful. You want another baby so go for it. Just do as I did and get all the necessary test ran to make sure you are not suffering from any genetic defects or other illnesses that can cause a bad pregnancy.
Good luck

Answer 5

With my first, he was almost 12 lbs and 23 1/2 inches long. I got a 4th degree tear (ripped all the way through) and the doctor had to stitch on my for about 2 hours. I was in the hospital for 4 days. Also my son had a broken collarbone because of his size.

I have had 2 more since. I was scared, but I didn't let it stop me. With my second, she just slid right out, and I had no real pain.

With my 3rd, it was hard, because he was another big one, over 10 lbs.

Every delivery is different. Don't be afraid, have another baby!

Answer 6

WIth my first prgnancy everything went smooth until I actually had the baby. I was bleeding obsessively. I turned pale white for 3 days. 2 days after giving birth I had a large chunk of something trying to come out of me. I still had placenta in me and it basically was making me sick to where I had barley any blood flow. Bad enough I'm about to have my 2nd child within a month. I just hope things go differently. My doc said I am getting meds b4 I start to push to make sure everything comes out the first time. A second occurance could do major dammage.

Answer 7

my best friend is pregnant right now with her first and she's having an AWFUL experience too. I've been doing a lot of research for her (I don't have kids) and I found that most people say that their 2nd pregnancy is never as bad as the first. If you're really scared (and have a lot of money) I know a couple who hired a surrogate mother for their 2nd child. I hope any of that helps!

Answer 8

my first son was vaginal, my 2nd son was emergency c-section, and omg ouch it hurt. I felt your pain. My 3rd child was a planned c-section and that was a walk in the park. The 2nd one was way better than the first. I will be having my 4th in about 6 weeks and I can't wait to have this c-section. It's so much better to have them planned and not have to labor then have a c-section. Good luck

Answer 9

I can relate! I went through the same thing and I don't want anymore babies! Everyone says they're so worth it, but no...that's not true, the first one was worth it yes but it's not even worth the risk the second time. My baby was born with virtually no heartbeat and no blood pressure. I almost died, my baby almost died, why would I want to go through that again? So the next time my little girl could possibly lose her mommy, lose her sibling, or maybe even both? I think not....

Answer 10

I had C-Section and I recovered immediately. The only problem was that I was really sick and they had to save me and my baby. The surgery (wound) itself, didn't bother me, but my general malady (heart problems, kidney problem, seizures...) Are you just scared of the operating room or did you have a really bad recovery? Talk to your doctor and he may put your mind at ease. You can also request general anesthesia, then you wake up and look at your beautiful baby and that's all. Remember, millions of women undergo this type of surgery.