Our child has to have surgery and he refuses to pay the deductable( its his insurance)?

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Our child has to have surgery and he refuses to pay the deductable( its his insurance)?
I keep hearing the wife's voice, she says he says he doesnt want to talk to me. He has never told me that. I've told here to stop calling me, ''he'' needs to contact me. I am paying the deductable and taking him to court immediately for the 200. Am I wrong for this. Even thought i know he would pay it if she wasnt involving herself. I get 938 per month in CS and ''she'' thinks i should use that. I say no, that money is dedicated to other child expenses. Its his insurance and his child.

Answer 1

Look it is like this. He is required to carry medical coverage on them and anything from that you can get your money back from . Copays. etc are trivial for they are only 10-30 buck a pop. If your child had an illness then you guys should cover this 50/50 as there are more expenses required, but you dont have to becasue he is the responbile party on his policy, they cant come after you for the money. Being the mother i am sure you will pay it and then take his *** to court and get your deductable back plus other fees. He knows that he is wrong, She ( his wife) feels like you are probaly already ripping them and doesn want you to have more. UNDERSTANDABLE, but it sound like she has brough this on herself with her butting in.

You are not wrong, he is refusing to pay becuse he know you will regardless. He will always do that to you.

Take his *** to court get your money back, and then take him back to court for modification of visition, so the judge can tell him to ''man up'' and tell her to shut the f**k up.

They both are making this worse, they need to grow up. I am assure you that her home is an unhappy one.

Answer 2

So does the child not belong to you also? He pays for the child's insurance and pays $938 a month to cover other expenses. How much money do you spend on the child? In most cases the parents share an equal responsibility to cover deductibles.

Answer 3

He pays every month for the insurance and pay almost a grand in child support, You can't pay for the co-pay? I'm very sure the kid does not use up the whole $938 al by himself. Greedy is the key word here. His wife may sound bitchy, but she has a point, you can swing the co-pay with what you get in child support.

If I were him, I would go to court and see about getting my child support revised and make it clear on who has to pay for what.

There is nothing a guy hates more that to have his ex hounding him for money and having the new wife bitching from the other side. Give the guy a break.

Answer 4

If anything use the money from child support to pay for the deductible and take him to court for the rest. You should only sue him for half of the deductable and you pay the other half. Try to work it out because it won't be good for the child to see his parents fighting over something that he needs. Also, does he have a cell phone or work number? Somewhere that you could call him so that his wife won't be involved in the conversation?

Answer 5

Most states do have a thing called "family support action", where you can go to the family court and explain what you need the father to do and why. However, you cannot file an action if you do not have any stipulation in your court order that clarifies what the father is responsible for in addition to childsupport.

If you can afford it, pay the deductible. If you cannot afford it, go to him and talk to him personally(provided that you live close enough to him)and explain him that even though you and he are no more, the child is entitled to love both parents, it is entitled to be supported by both parents, and it most certainsly is entitled to get the surgery it needs, regardless of the fights the parents have. If that does not work, talk to an attorney!!

Answer 6

I agree. Child Support is for the child needs (ie, cloths, school etc). The deductible is his responsibility because its under his name. The child comes first. Have the surgery and then let the insurance go after him. If all else fails take him to court.! Good luck!

Answer 7

If you get $938 a month in CS, you're pretty lucky and I don't see why you couldn't take the deductible out of that sum of money. I don't know what the law would say about it if it's his insurance and whatever though, guess you could see.

Answer 8

Could you split the difference? The main point is get the child taken care of then argue over the money later. If it's your husband's insurance, won't the hospital go after him for the remainder of the payment anyway?

Send your husband a certified letter and explain to him what's going on with his new wife and you. Ask him if he doesn't want you to contact him any more concerning the health and welfare of his child. If you don't get a response, see an attorney. Keep a copy of the letter!

Answer 9

Well, put yourself in other people's shoes. What would you do if this happens to you?? would you be with open arms with the mother of your hudsband's child? I don't think you are setting a good example for your child by having so much anger towards the father...make a paeceful deal with him...half and half with the expenses..that is YOUR child too. If he refuses then go to court AND learn from YOUR mistake of choosing " Mr. wrong" and suck it up. The child shouldn't have to suffer for their parent's mess.

* Was he your ex husband or an affair ?

Answer 10

I would pay the 200 and send him a certified letter with a copy of the receipt - and send a copy to the Atty Gen Office as well... then when you end up in court again for whatever reason, if he has not paid you the money back - you have the receipt for the ceritied letter, along with your copy of the receipt - showing that you tried to contact hom about this bill.... and he neglected to pay his 1/2