I don't know what to do, she has made it very clear...help!
2006-07-13 03:54:45 · 6 answers · asked by JADE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Explain this to your husband first. If he is in denial, call his new wife and ask her 'politely' if your daughter and she are having an problems relating to one another. She may not know she is making your daughter uncomfortable or that she is having issues with her father's new wife.
Is this a new marriage for your ex-husband? Is your daughter angry because he remarried or because his wife is mean to her? Perhaps talk to your daughter about counseling and explain to your ex husband that because of your daughter's mental health you are going to allow her the space she needs and time to go do counseling to work out her issues.
Try to get to the root of the problem and then take the appropriate direction. You can also consult your attorney for advice in this matter if it is really a problem.
Also, be careful that YOU are not the root of the problem by bad mouthing the step-mother. Your daughter is going through enough pain to have to choose sides. You may not love your husband any more, but HE is your daughter's father. Even if you think he is a worm of a father, let her discover it herself. Of course, that is if he is not an abuser to her.
2006-07-13 03:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a sit down with the the daugther, father and step mother. Have the daugther put everything out on the table and express herself to her father as well as, the step mother about how she feels. If she doesn't say something to them about the they will never know how to go about handling the issue.
If you can't get anything resolve then their is nothing you can do but pray for your daugther. But as your daugther gets older she may not want to do her own thing, That could be one of the reasons why she doesn't want to go over their on the weekends.
2006-07-13 11:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being just about her age, I say let her cool off a bit. I'm in basically the same situation, I really don't like my mom's fiance. Don't try to force her to spend time with her step mom, and don't make the have time alone. In a few days, you should begin gradually introducing eachother more. You/her dad should be there with them, so she doesn't feel like shes alone or trappped.
2006-07-13 11:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by CC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your ex. Explain to him it's not you but you all need to talk and maybe together can come up with some solutions. Also you need to find out why your daughter does not like her step mother. Then take it from there. Good luck.
2006-07-13 10:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ifshe doesn't want to go dont make her go. maybe something happened between the step mother and her that she doesnt want to tell
2006-07-13 11:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force her to go, or shell turn on you, tell her dad something else has to be done, visits somewhere else without her being there, or the visits stop.
2006-07-13 11:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋