My ex-boyfriend has been asking my mother about me recently, but I have been married to my best friend for ten years, have children, and a great life. The man in question went to the service, is back now, and is asking my mother about how to get in touch with me. What should I do?
2006-07-13 03:54:44 · 10 answers · asked by tara m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After the blushing and possibly a few schoolgirl giggles, take a deep breath and tell your mom to tell him you said hi and that you hope he is doing well. Leave it at that!
For you to be posting the question... it sounds as if..in your particular situation..you may end up tempted. Temptation is an evil thing and especially hard to overcome especially with someone whom you once were smitten with.
Best wishes to you!
2006-07-13 09:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. . first of all if your mother is a good parent she will tell this guy you are married and off the market. Second of all. . if this guy is a good guy he will leave you alone. Third of all if you are a decent wife and parent you will leave this guy alone. In ten years this guy has probably changed a lot. Most guys in the service screw numerous hoochie mamma in several countries during their service. Maybe he could give you a disease.
Also realize he was your first love. . . . .years later they always intrigue you much more than they really should simply because they are your first love. If you are considering this guy then maybe you actually have issues in your marriage. Maybe the grind of marriage and the responsibiliy of a family have you missing your younger care free days? Think about what you are really feeling. Too often women in your situation go and mess around with the single guy only to find all he wanted was a roll in the hay even though he professed his undying love. Then you'll crawl back to your husband who will tell you to go to hell. You end up a single mother trying to make ends meet and most men won't be too attracted to that. Think with your head and not your hormones before you make a decision. You might just mess up your life real bad!
2006-07-13 04:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your own question. you are happy, you married your best friend.
there's pretty much nothing this ex can do to change your views. if he just wants to casually find out how you are, how your life is, etc, that's fine.
if he has the intentions of getting back together with you - brush him off girl. you have the best of everything. no need for some has-been to try to change that. :)
good luck!
2006-07-13 04:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to look toward the future with someone from your past. People change; circumstances change. These people may not be the people we remember ourselves to be 10 years ago.
I say, if it's not broke, don't try to fix it. And, your mom shouldn't be giving out that information out of respect for your marriage anyway.
2006-07-13 04:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to tell him that you are happily married and he missed out..just the fact that you felt the need to ask this question tells me you may still have feelings for this guy...so it's best to avoid him altogether...otherwise you are headed for trouble.....
2006-07-13 04:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. Don't let your temptation get in the way. it is not worth it. If you have a happy life, live it be.
2006-07-13 03:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my mom to tell him hi for me the next time she saw him.But let that be as far as it goes.
2006-07-13 04:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother to tell him thanks, but no thanks. He had his shot and blew it. Why ruin a great thing?
I have been married 10 years myself, and if you can make it that long, you're golden! :) Congrats on a great marriage.
2006-07-13 04:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom to tell him no thanks.you've moved on and have a great marriage and have no desire to see him.
2006-07-13 04:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT EVEN THINK OF GETTING IN TOUCH WITH HIM
U R ALREADY
HAPPY WHY RUIN IT?
2006-07-13 04:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋