my guy seems to like controlling things... like what i do... and say... but it's not all the time. he also likes to...give me pain? sexuallly. the weird thing is, i find this to be super hot. but he doesn't know. should i tell him? and is the controlling thing something to worry about?
2006-07-13 03:51:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Well, first of all it seems to me that by controlling you, this is turning him on. Many people find sex pleasurable in many ways, so nothing shocks me, but what worries me is that when he likes to give you pain sexually that may just be another form of his control, and if you tell him you enjoy it, he will find another way to controll you which will be more difficult as time goes by. Things will start to get much worse and he will have to find something else to controll in your life. My suggestion is to be very careful and find a easy way out of this before he hurts you. Things will never get better if he doesn't seek help and you don't get out of this quickly.
2006-07-13 07:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lynette W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever rolls your oats. Some folks seem to be content to be controlled. My prediction would be that without some intervention, the need to control you will never be reduced, may get more intense, and is likely to bother you more rather than less. As far as pain getting you hot, see the first statement (but be a little careful).
2006-07-13 03:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, whatever floats your boat, it's none of our business. However, I would be careful of someone that has controlling tendencies because it rarely gets better and often times gets worse. You got to do what you got to do, but I would suggest being careful and watch for anything that appears as if the controlling behaviors are getting worse. You can never be too careful when it comes to you OWN well being.
2006-07-13 04:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by stepmomster22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... to each his own, if both of you are comfortable in these roles, then by all means go ahead. just as long as he doesnt overstep his boundaries and for example become physically violent in a way that you dont appreciate.
Anyway, you should TALK and set boundaries and discuss your roles in this relationship
2006-07-13 03:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by DEvLZ_advoc8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋