Did you get spankings when you were growing up?

Question

This question is about your parents belief about useing spanking as a method to punish you when you were a kid

Answer 1

Yes I did. I used to get the buckle end of a belt!

However, this was adminstered out of love and it was the ONLY thing that worked. I would also be told what I had done was wrong, why it was wrong and what the consequences of the behaviour could be. I understood why I had been beaten and accepted it. I was a mischievious youth. telling me, explaining to me, making me have a time out or taking this off me, removing priviledges never worked. If I didn't feel physical pain, I believed I had got away with whatever it was I had done wrong.

I am much older and wiser and more respectfull of other people and learned this the hard way.

Some, and I mean a small minority of, children do need physical punishment. I was one of them. My Brother on the other hand, would be worse after a beating. Physical punishment never worked with him, but you could sit him down and reason with him. So in the end, my parents would leather me if I deserved it. and sit down and discuss behaviour with my brother. both techniques worked in their own way.

If I had not recieved some of these leatherings as a youth, I would probably be in prison for GBH or murder right now, so I thank my parents for setting me straight with a firm, but loving hand.

All Children are different. they each need to learn discipline in their own way. Removing physical punishment altogether would be a mistake, as some violent people should have had the brutality beaten out of them, the trick is knowing which children this applies to, as, just as in some cases, they have had their brutality beaten in to them.

it's a form of neuro-assiciative conditioning. You just have to be sure what the child associates the pain of a beating to., If, like me, they associate what they did wrong with pain, then it works. If, like my brother, they then associate the beating with solving a problem, then you are training a voilent thug.

It is NOT black and white as all children are different.

Answer 2

yes, I did.
I think "spanking" is ok. There is a big difference between spanking a child and abusing a child.
But there are other ways of discipline that are just as affective.
Some of these kids today need a good fashion spanking!!
I think that was the only thing my parents knew to do, right or wrong.

Answer 3

Yep, I did. And I can honestly say, they were not fairly given because not all aspects of reasoning were considered for the negative behavior.

Spanking only teaches a child violence, it causes a child to distrust its parent, and causes a child to closeup inside.

There are so many ways to help children through issues. Most parents are so lazy and just want a quick fix! They don't have a clue what parenting involves and they don't want to learn.

Get into a parenting class and other group activities with families of your children's age. Don't be afraid to ask questions and read books on rearing children. Spanking should not even be considered until the age of 4!

This world sometimes makes me want to puke the way adults treat children!

Answer 4

I never got spanked, but my siblings did. My parents were good at recognizing the different methods that worked best with each of us kids. I think that was key for us growing up.

Answer 5

i was spanked only if it was a very serious or dangerous situation that my parents really didn't want me to forget, and it worked perfectly. I spank my own children, but never in anger, and only if it is to teach them not to do something that will hurt, or kill them. i respected my parents for it, and when i became a parent that respect doubled because i realized that spanking, if done in the right context, is harder on the parent than it is for the child. it always has to be tempered with an explanation ,and i always tell my children that i love them and i hope they remember a lesson from it.

Answer 6

Only on the REALLY bad things. I don't resent them for it at all. It was never done in anger. And I was always aware of why I was getting it. Plus I would rather get a spank then be grounded. Spanks over in a minute, grounding lasts much longer!

Answer 7

I got beatings. My dad was very abusive. I do believe in spankings though. It teaches respect and discipline. My mom spanked me with a switch. I hated it, but I didn't do it again. People that let their children run over them will eventually become way out of control. They will end up in jail or worse. That is what is wrong with todays society now. My sister-n-law didn't want my brother to spank their kids. Now their kids are out of control and she wants my brother to do something about it, but it's way too late. You need to start discipling your children at a young age.

Answer 8

Yes, I got spanked growing up. I lived mostly with a grandparent, who came from the "old school," so there were some times when she would get after me and spank my backside.

Answer 9

I did... I dont know if its the right way... But it damn sure kept me from getting out line and doing the wrong things... There is nothing wrong with a spanking in my opinion... But there is something VERY wrong with beatings... Yes there is a different from a spank on the hand or behind versus beating the mess out of your child... your kids shouldnt be terrified of you... but they should respect you and know there limits and the consequences...

Answer 10

Yes I was spanked but only if I was out of line. Yeah I believe in it as long as its not too hard but just enough to lets kids know enough is enough.