I want to get rid of this guy who has been fooling me and my best friend. He has been pestering us both since 5-6 years now. He creates scenes threatens to kill himself if we don't talk to him properly. Have tried to do everything that we could think of to get rid of him but failed. He claims to love and need both of us & we both are not interested in him for obvious reasons.
2006-07-13 03:33:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Make him some brownies or chocolate cake and add chocolate flavored exlax.
If he comes back, make him some chocolate chip cookies using chocolate chips and chocolate flavored exlax.
If he returns again, make him some banana-nut bread or muffins substituting Milk of Magnesia for 1/4 of the liquid that is called out in the recipe. (if it calls for 1 cup of liquid, then 1/4 cup of Milk of Magnesia and 3/4 cup of milk or water)
Keep this up for a few times and he will finally understand that coming around you two makes him sick.
Be consistent - or get a big dog that barks at him.
2006-07-13 13:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wolf 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age. If you are under 18 and the person is older you must act now and seek help from your parents or another trusted adult. You don't say if there is an age discrepancy, but the practice of stalking and harrassment is against the law. You can decide to follow this route. Can you involve another authoratitive person? If you are able, your strength of character in ignoring any requests or threats might stand you in good stead. Consider changing email addresses, telephone numbers - there are rules about this kind of pestering too.When people threaten to, or actually do, take their own lives it is never because of any other person. It is they, however sad they are, that makes that decision.
2006-07-13 12:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by silentium aqualis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police. Both sit down together and talk about it with him. Say you want him to leave you alone, you're not interested so there is no point. You cannot submit to threats like that. He probably has nointention of killing himself.
If he does then that is his problem.
Failing that you could always tell him you have genital warts or something...or you are not attracted to guys.
2006-07-13 10:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by becky_ms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called a stalker. They use intimidation and pity to keep you in the lurch.
File a restraining order, start building a case before it escalates into something more serious.
This is a sick individual, and there's no telling how far he might go to keep you in his life, or to get what he wants from you. You and your friend need to protect yourselves.
I would ask him why he failed to keep his promise about killing himself. Then again, I'm a bit.ch
2006-07-13 10:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Chryss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky one, it's happened to me. You don't say how you know him - school? work?
If your own efforts to get rid of him haven't worked then you need help from someone in charge of him - that might be a boss or tutor (thats why i'm asking how you know him) if they don't apply then... go to the police. It will help if you have detailed notes on what he has been doing, when and for how long. Don't be embarrassed, these things happen, but you must put a stop to them or it can turn dangerous. Good luck.
2006-07-13 10:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanted him out of your life, he would be. It's that simple. Stop trying to sound like you're some sort of saintly person who doesn't want this poor guy to kill himself. Odds are he won't and he is just talking ****. And if he does, well i've got no problem with more population control.
2006-07-13 10:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l think deep down you enjoy this because if you have told him before why is it 6 years on he still pestering you, don't just tell him you have to mean what you say. Tell him to go kill himself if he can't handle it.
2006-07-13 10:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how can he need both of you? and secondly if he says he is gonna kill himself just ask him to carry on. i bet he wont. guys arent so sensitive. most of them lie about it. you can also tell him that u will lodge a complaint against him at the police stn. and still if he doesnt stop. then pls report him to the police.
2006-07-13 10:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by cybermanish7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either talk with and ask him to get help, or leave him alone. He's using the guise of friendship to manipulate you and your friend. Is there anyway that you can talk to his family, or someone close to him so that they can persuade him to get help? If so, that would certainly be in his best interest.
2006-07-13 10:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to see or hear from him again and mean it. Walk away from the emotional blackmail. If he persists in being a pest, get a restraining order.
2006-07-13 10:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by zara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋