2006-07-13 03:29:26 · 9 answers · asked by Mandy J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think some people find it hard to stay faithful regardless if they are Christian or not. It comes down to looking for something that is missing in your life. Although, as Christians, we are supposed to look towards God for what is missing, but the human side of us looks for instant gratification.
Are you finding it hard to stay faithful? Feel free to contact me to discuss this further.
2006-07-13 03:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were your vows?
#1 You made a promise to God to love, honor and cherish this person until you die.
#2 You promised your spouse to hold him above all others.
Both of you have gotten so busy that you forgot what each other means to you.
I have been married for more than 20 years and am still faithful to my wife. I have had opportunites to stray, but I commited myself to my wife and would not put myself into a position for something to happen with another woman. It is a choice to stray- it does not have to happen - don't give in to the feelings of lust for another. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence - those are wild weeds over there and you'll get pricked if you hop the fence.
Pray about it - ask God to change your heart and turn it back towards your hubby. Pray for your hubby to give you more attention.
Maybe both of you need counseling? Marriage is a team effort. It's either both of you or neither.
Ask him out on a date - get all dressed up - dinner & movie - picnic at the beach or under a shade tree in the park. Go for a weekender trip. Anything to get you two away from here to enjoy each other over there. One bag each - maybe two outfits for the day and one for the night- espically the ones he likes.
Try the websites below for wonderful information on marriage and infidelity.
Remember don't do something that you would not want your hubby doing to you.
2006-07-13 19:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has always been difficult, that's why Jesus talked of it as the narrow way. However, there are some things I do that seem to make it a bit easier.
The first and most important thing I do is spend time each day with God. I read the Word and pray.
The second thing I do is fellowship with other believers, not just through church activities, but with prayer and accountability partners. These are the people who know me well and can help me when I'm tempted to stray.
2006-07-13 10:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not hard to stay faithful in the sexual sense. You just do not have sex with anyone else. I know, though, that I fell in love with someone that was involved in a lot of the same things as I was. Not because it was planned or because I wanted to, but because my husband and I work opposite schedules. I was very glad to have adult interaction that shared the same interests as me. That part is hard because in two income homes, both spouses spend time with other people more than they do their husband or wife. The stress of marriage is not hanging between you and the other people in your life, so the grass always looks greener. You just have to bury those feelings and stick to your guns that you will not cross any lines. I never told the man or insinuated to him that I felt anything more for him than a friend and I never will.
Pray, pray, pray for faithfulness too. (How can I forget that one VERY IMPORTANT part??)
2006-07-13 10:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by texasgirl5454312 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike non-Christians, Christains should understand "un-merited" (unearned) love. Furthermore, it is clear that true love goes far beyond how one feels at any particual moment.
With that said, staying faithful is a matter of determination and work. Determination in not allowing myself to consider options outside of my wife. Second, work in doing whatever is necessary to keep the flame alive.
The treasure of a long term love that has seen, dealt with and overcome may ups and downs; good times and bad is unlike any other gem in terms of brilliance and warmth.
That's the way I see it!
2006-07-13 10:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love someone, you won't even think about someone else. You will not want to hurt the person at all whether you are a christian or not. I don't know why people want to cheat anyway. If you don't want the person your with, leave them, why cheat on them? I don't understand that at all. It's not right and not fair to the person you are with. Do you want them to do that to you? Do you want them to think about someone else? Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel?
2006-07-13 10:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT IS VERY HARD TO BE A CHRISTIAN AND NOT BE TEMPTED BY GOOD LOOKING GUYS AND SEX. I DID LAST NIGHT WITH A MARRIED GUY. I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER DO IT AGAIN, I DID. not shouting just making a point.
2006-07-13 22:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by cottoncandysky40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't on purpose put myself in situations that are too tempting for me.
2006-07-13 10:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just don't have sex with people who aren't your spouse. Is that complicated?
2006-07-13 10:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋