why is abuse agaisnt women,still goin rampant worldwide?what are those women doing or not doing to cause it ?

Answer 1

Women can not cause themselves to be abused. The abusers are obviously at fault. Although women may stay in a situation that allows them to continue to be abused. There are not nearly enough resources for women that are in these situations, especially when they are women that have not learned valuable working skills or have children to consider. As with all social bads, it takes strong people to help those who may not be as strong at that moment...steph

Answer 2

Why is spousal abuse against woman so rampant? There are a number of reasons. In many 3rd world nations woman are still seen as property. In many of the more religious nations such as the Islamic nations of the middle east, woman are second class citizens and MUST conform to the letter of the religious doctrines that include being submissive to their husbands. Otherwise, the men have the right to seek punishment.

In countries like the U.S., Canada and most of Europe, there are many other reasons.

First, there are a lot of woman who bring it upon them selves. This is NOT to say it's their fault, it's not. But the facts are that if you look at most of the woman in abusive relationships today, they were in abusive relationships in the past and chances are, if they ever leave their abusive partners they will most likely end up back in another abusive relationship. How many of us have had two guys hitting on us and given the choice between the respectable, honest and caring guy or the bad boy with the bad rep, we chose the bad buy? And then we got mad at him for living up to his reputation. Um! Duh!?!

Another reason is that we woman tend to be far more 'romantic' then men. We dream about the perfect man, or about that one GREAT love. So when we find a guy we really, really like and find a small flaw, like a loud mouth or a bad temper, we say to ourselves, "He'll change" or "I'll change him." Many woman believe, "Love conquers all." It's not the truth.

Also, how many girls today jump into a relationship BEFORE they really know the guy. I mean, come on, they meet some guy, maybe go one a date or two and then they are in bed with him. A moth later they are professing their undying love and move in together and a couple of months later they have a child on the way. They hardly even know each other, but they are now a family.

When all is said and done, the reason there is so much abuse, in the U.S. anyway, is because we let it happen. How many woman do you know that have there man verbally or even physically abuse them and then turn around and pretend like nothing ever happened. Each time it happens it gets worse and we swear it will never happen again. Our friends tell us, "Don't let him lie his way back into your hear and pretend like everything ok again." only to have the woman get upset and say dumb things like, "You know me better then that. It's over. I'm done being abused." A week later your hearing stories about how nice her man has been all week and how he's planning a nice romantic vacation. A few weeks later they are fighting again and she leaves again for the same damn thing and this goes on again, and again, and again.

If we woman would just use our brain and got away from the trouble when it happened then men would either NOT be in a position to hurt us or they would learn that if they want tot keep us around, and not go to jail, then they need to keep their hands off.

I mean come one girls, if you had a curing iron that gave you an electric shock every couple of months, who wouldn't throw the damn thing away and buy a new one? So if your man shocks you every couple of weeks, then why not just replace him? Duh!

Answer 3

Because both men and women don't value women or the contributions that women make to the world. Women don't get paid the same as men, our bodies are treated as merchandise (bought and sold in advertising as well as commercial sex) and the work of raising children and running a home is undervalued in this country as well.

I have to disagree with Figato. Abuse is not just rampant in the Islamic world. It's rampant in the Americas as well--According the Pan American Health Organization, 1 in 3 women has been the victim of sexual violence and up to 45 percent have been threatened--I hardly think of the Americas as Islamic (source 1 below). The reasons why it happens are complex--poverty, gender inequality, cultural politics to name a few (for a good primer, see source # 2). Yes, women sometimes stay in these relationships long after they should leave--often it's because in the US, the religious right likes to throw up statistics about how children from single-parent households don't do as well academically, get into more trouble with the juvenile justice system, etc. As a women who was in a verbally abusive relationship, I begged my partner to get counseling, told him we could see a pastor, counselor, anyone he wanted, but he refused--said it was all my problem. The abuse doesn't happen over night--it starts out slow--you think if you just do things a little bit better, you can change him and make the relationship work and not be a "failure". I finally got smart and left because I didn't want my daughter growing up thinking that love means someone calling you a g**-d*** M*****-F*******-b**** or slapping you so hard you fall down. Yeah, he only did that once, but it was enough to knock some sense into me. Fortunately, I have 3 degrees, job skills, support of family and friends and only one child. I have a great deal of empathy for women who don't have job skills, no support and more than 1 child, because I don't know how they have the courage to get out.

Answer 4

Most of the time the women are not at fault because many countries laws are set up to prevent them from success in the courts. Many countries allow husbands to abuse their wives. It is a shame. Thank God for the United States of America where you can smash his face in response to abuse and you can get a jury trial./or leave him and find a shelter. God bless america.

Answer 5

Alot of times men that abuse women came from homes where they watched their mothers be abused. They tend to believe that is how it's supposed to be. You have to pray for those kind of people. That tends to be a sickness. Just like I believe the one guy who answers said b/c women nag that's why they get beat. He's got a sickness to believe that.

Answer 6

It's not the women that are doing this! It is the people who are abusive that are the problem. And they are probably still doing this because our justice system lets them. You know abusers and rapist and other criminal have a lot more rights than the victims

Answer 7

In many cultures, still today, it is recognized that women are to be submissive to their man. Unfortunately this leads to abuse, since many men think they have the right to punish women as they see fit. This is even taught to them in religious meetings, and in some cases schools

Answer 8

because they marry jerks who don't love them. many attractive women dress provocativly to show off there assets and this attracts men. somtimes the wrong ones. I think the major problem with this is that women look for two things in men. one is how he looks and the other is how much money does he make.
they should spend more time getting to know what is in his heart. and to also give him certain test to see how sensitive or how cruel he is towards others, especially animals. before becoming involved with him. of course I am speaking exclusivly about the U.S. I don't want to even think about how cruel men treat women in the middle east. compared to pakistan women american women have it made in general. but abuse against women in america is bad to.

Answer 9

We are the physically weaker sex. We need to prepare for attack if possible. I have a concealed weapon's permit. I would use my weapon in the event that I felt my life was in danger or the life of someone in my presence was in danger.

Women need to get smarter and to prepare for safety. Avoid putting themselves in situations that provide an attacker more opportunity to act out his desires of crime.

We are at war today with so much, drugs, greed and various sicknesses. Self-defense!

Answer 10

Domestic violence can be contributed to a myriad of reasons. You can view it from a socioeconomic perspective, from culture, from upbringing, but it really boils down to low self esteme. I am refering to both the man who abuses and the women that are abused.
Commonly, statistics support that those who commit domestic violence against women were raised in an enviornment that supported this behaviour, or who were abused in some fashion as children by one or both parents. In a large percentage of cases, "once an abused child always an abusive adult" Some take it one step out of the box and find adult women who for reasons of their own are natural "victims". The needy, dependant woman whose worth is established by the men in their lives. Due to their own childhood, believe that they are second class, that thier very value in life is what a man tells them it is.
This thinking has been the foundation throughout history for the male/female gender roles. It's very application comes from the Biblical interpretation of the male role in a family, and the so-called requirment for obedience demanded from women. Remember, women have only had the right to vote for about 100yrs+/-. That is how recently in history women have become a presence rather than property in this "man's world".
Human's are subject to sterotyping, and when this becomes excessive, what you end up with is the "batterer". Culture plays a very large role in the status of women, look at Iran, Iraq, Afganhistan as examples...
Women are raised, even today to be subservient to men. They learn the "nurturing role" while men are taught to hunter, gatherer and protector roles. Observe how young children play together, boys and girls and watch closely how adults tend to steer one sex over the other to more "traditional" toys and games.
Take that, add 15-18 yrs, a broken home, economic depressions, drugs, alcohol, abuse, legal problems, poor education, and then a dose of fanatisium, and you have a potiential abuser.
Now, put that together with a female who has had a similar upbringing, together with the gender role since early age thereby reducing her self-esteme and you have the "battered".
The above is purely from the physcological perspective. To that we can see a highly educated person of middle class standing, with loving parents," an apple pie" kind of life and add drugs, alcohol, money problems, infidelities and mental health issues and you have yet another "batterer". For economic reasons, the wife doesn't or can't leave and after awhile she becomes blinded by her belief that she somehow could have made it easier, which in her twisted ego was the reason he "hits'.
Some even take the Bible to heart and believe that it is their duty to control their women. These are the ones I would like to have a crack at.
All batterers believe they are tough, but these last types are the biggest cowards of all. They hide behind the Old Testament as justification for thier abuse, rather than just admit they are dominent over women, you know the rapist's in jail, those types...
NO ONE deserves to be abused, and the longer anyone puts up with it without fighting back will end up dead, or end up like the walking dead without one shread of self respect left, or buried so far down chances are they will never break the cycle in the types of men they are drawn to. This continues and continues until one child is born and stands tall against this and refuses to allow themselves to be dragged to the bottom of the pit of humanity.
In the last 15-20 years, we hear about spousal abuse more as a result of technological advances. We are using one right now. The media, movies, tv, had allowed us witness to this on a regular basis, however, statistically domestic violence has decreased nationwide, and in some cases worldwide. Again, look at Afganhistan.
Women are coming of age that are standing tall, more of them every day. They are learning to defend themselves, they are learning how to steer around the business obsticals making them more and more powerful. The cowards are now finding it harder and harder to find their "victims", and the victims are getting a little tougher with each generation born...
Look at polictics and the number of women serving, or police and firefighters that are women. Don't think for a minute that they can't take a punch, or put one out there, and don't think for a minute that these women won't use the tools available to them to punish the men in their lives who trample on them like dirt on their shoes...
Until all victims stop being victims, domestic violence will continue from the range of perspectives discussed herein. Of course there are always the mentally deranged sociopaths that have yet to be diagnosed and treated, and those who hide it as not to be noticed. We will always have some of those.