We have been together almost two years. We just had a baby three months ago. He broke up with me to be with someone else. I cant shake him.
2006-07-13 03:13:02 · 20 answers · asked by shy girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Remember why you broke up with him and move on
2006-07-13 03:15:24 · answer #1 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.... What he has done is unforgivable. He is not the type of man you need in your life. I know that is hard to hear. I gather you are fairly young. When young men have a baby with a young girl they usually are not prepared for hormonal changes the women go through. They are not adult enough to handle it. Heck, some adult men are not mature enough to handle it. There really should be a class for young fathers and mothers to teach and discuss the hormonal changes and what to expect. Well, all parents for that matter. I'm really not sure if they have one now. I know they didn't when I was having kids. Just remember you can't change what is broken. It is already broken. A little glue won't make it the way it use to be. He will regret what he has done when he realizes the mistake he made. Until that day (It could be many years from now) you need to be the best mama you can be. You have a love in your life that counts on you for everything and loves you unconditionally. You will be ok. You'll never forget and the feelings you are experiencing will never completely go away but you will survive. Time doesn't heal the wound but it sure puts a heavy scar on it. Good luck to you. I'll pray for your recovery and well being. Kiss the baby for me.
2006-07-13 10:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. Right now focus on you and the baby and in time (maybe six months) start dating someone else that is going to appreciate you and your baby. Do no be a settler. Spend this time keeping a journal to clear your head, right down a list of all the fine qualities you want in the next man and the things you don't want. Use that list for when you start dating again, you will get a better match.
As soon as someone better comes along you will appreciate the break up! Hang in there.
2006-07-13 11:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because he is a peice of sh it. You don't choose who you love your heart does, and that sucks. But it's only natural that you feel this way. You baby is the best reason to keep moving forward. This is hard time for you and you will be angry and upset for awhile, but you can still be happy. He didn't just leave you he left his child. When you child is older, he\she will love you so much for not leaving him\her. Don't stress to much, focus on your child and the FACT that you are better than him. Don't get involved with anyone, because you will find yourself in the same situation, give yourself time to heal. Chances are he will do the same to her, or worse, that's his nature, he's a week minded boy and you are a strong willed woman, that's why your there with your child.
2006-07-13 10:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by scorpieo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use all of your energy on your new baby. I know it is not going to be easy, but you should just try and focus on you and your baby without him in your life. They are a lot of nice guys out there that are ready and willing to make a person like you happy. Don't give up your baby is going to need you.
2006-07-13 10:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by luckymom43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swt heart life is like that. dont let things of that nature deter you from moving on. i went out with a guy for four years, if he had broken up wit me i'd have been happy but he dated girls who were older than he is, who have cars and who can spend on him and when i heard this, i was heart broken.
To find happiness and peace else where, you must first find it inside you. Let time while away and let you child be your priority now. Your partner will soon show his face again; it could be him it could be another wonderful person.
mark this. Do not be discouraged. ok
2006-07-13 10:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty harsh of him if you have a baby together. You should just let him see that you don't need him and can make it on your own. Try to plan some nights out with the girls and forget about him.
2006-07-13 10:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by peachtree73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you consider the reason(s) for breaking up with him as genuine enough, then you must move forward in life. Life goes on. But you have to take your time before making a new friend. Remember, "once beaten, twice shy". Cheers!
2006-07-13 10:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of your child and pray he might one day see reason to come back to you.main while life must go on and you mustn't shut your heart to other admirers because of what happened, you only need to allow the pains you have in this relationship to be a guide for you in any other relationship you enter into.I HONESTLY FEEL YOU// take care of yourself, good-luck.
2006-07-13 10:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by oluwatobi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...Surround yourself with your friends and ppl who love and care for you...and just be glad that you had a child from someone you loved and go on with life...If he left you then he's not for you he doesn't have you at his heart and it's tough but yea you'll be seein better days
2006-07-13 10:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by baby_girl3031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time u will get over him what is important now is your baby put your focus on her if you have any hobbies get involved with them so your time is taken up so u wouldn't think about him
2006-07-13 10:18:47 · answer #11 · answered by hyacinth c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋