My friend has misunderstood me. i want to tell her that i had nothing to do with what she thinks has been done by me. how do explain things to her. she doesnt want to talk to me n i want to explain it to her.
2006-07-13 02:43:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Is there someone who can run interference for you? Someone you both know and can trust to be honest would be the best, I think.
2006-07-13 02:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a real dilemma here, because it's very hard to get through to someone who is offended with you, whether they have a true cause or just think they have.
Do you have another friend who knows that you had nothing to do with the problem and could go to her and assure her that she knows absolutely that you are innocent and ask her if she'd be willing to talk with the both of you to clear the matter up.
Sometimes when we try to explain ourselves we make things worse. We think we are saying one thing, and because of the emotional grid the person is working through they are hearing something else. It just escalates the problem then, because her emotions are so worked up she can't hear you properly.
The third party should be someone she knows well and trusts.
I wish you success with this. It's painful when we are misunderstood, and most painful when we are misunderstood by someone we cherish and value.
2006-07-13 09:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want 1 hour of her time to talk and explain what happen. Tell her that your friendship was worth at least 1 hour of her time to listen and after hearing your story if she still wants to end your friendship then you won't bother her ever again.
Either send her a e-mail or letter or go in person.
make sure you find some place where you can be alone and talk freely no other friends or people you guys know are around.
2006-07-13 09:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but there's really nothing you can really do about that. They will have to want to be friends with you. I know its hard to lose a friend especially if you all have been there for each other. I should know I have lost and gained plenty of friends in my life. And the friends I had I thought we were close but the reason why we stopped being friends shouldnt have been like that. So if ya'll never talk again you should know what to do. Dont keep somebody who dont want to be kept.
2006-07-13 09:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time - when a person is angry, facts and reason won't always work. If you were best friends, she will calm down, realize that things aren't always what they seem - then you can take the opportunity to clear things up.
2006-07-13 09:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh,sister
i really know what are you suffering!!
Do you know try to send her an email or a letter....
explain everything to her and tell her that u dont want to lose her..
wish you all the best sweety
2006-07-13 09:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by blue rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter explaining everything. And then let your actions speak.
2006-07-13 09:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about writing her a letter. Attack a letter to a rose and have some1 deliver it. She'll have to read it. Then you know maybe a day after she recieves it you can call her.
2006-07-13 09:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by General X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Direct, honest, and sincere dialog.
Of course, you'll need to wait for the right time. If she gives you that time, then the friendship is worth saving. If not, her loss. Not yours.
2006-07-13 09:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. She'll come around in her own time. Besides, trying too hard makes you look guilty. If she doesn't, then so be it. People grow up. They also sometimes grow apart.
2006-07-13 09:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by exretainedff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋