Pro Lifers-Woman more at Fault than the Father?

Question

I think they are both equally murderers.
My bro-in law and his girlfriend had an abortion
(killed their baby). I have a hard time talking
to him although I do try.

So what are your thoughts...i personally think
guys get off scott free on this one-sadly

Answer 1

Sometimes yes, others no. I work with a man very devoted to his children. He went through a divorce, got into another relationship. The girl got pregnant thinking it would earn her more attention from him. When it didn't, she left him and had an abortion. He is still crushed by it and very bitter towards women now. He told her she could have the baby, leave it with him, and continue on with her life. She knew that he didn't even ask for child support from his ex-wife, but she still wouldn't do that.

Answer 2

Well it is very hard thing to do is have an abortion that is and yes people have a very hard time with this topic but I do believe that people do have the right to choose. and no i do not think woman are more at fault i know of many people with young unexpected pregnancy and the guys have always been the first to say what about a abortion. I think there would be less abortions if men wouldn't suggest it. As for myself I have had one it was the hardest thing i have ever had to do but at the time of conception i was drinking and smoking pot alot didn't know i was pregnant by the time i found out i didn't have a job and knowing all the things i was doing at that time in my life it seemed to be the right thing to do and my boyfriend was the first to bring up the abortion it was hard for both of us but at the time how could I bring a unhealthy baby into the world to suffer from my partying since then we have had a child she is wonderful and me and my boyfriend have been together for 8yrs now it was 4yrs ago that we had the abortion and our daughter is 2yrs now after we had the abortion we stopped our partying and have done some growing up so with the second pregnancy we knew she would be healthy but anyway you should still treat them with respect they are human and we all make mistakes and this is something they will have to live with the rest of their lives why make it harder for them.

Answer 3

I feel they are both at fault. The man could have worn a condom and the woman could have taken birth control. I know there are cases where condoms and birth control don't always work. I know for a fact because I've had 3 pregnancies that way. The first I miscarried, second and third I had live births and they are both my pride and joy. I personally think that if a woman still gets pregnant using birth control or condoms she should no way get an abortion. Seriously, I feel that an unplanned child in that sense is meant to be. I think they are both at fault. He talked her into the abortion and she went and got it.

I'm getting my daughters and I pro-life t-shirts. Mine says Por-life mom and theirs say Pro-life kid. I think it shows a point when you see a 1 year old and a 2 year old wearing them.

Answer 4

Sadly men lose all their rights in this decision. It is in fact a womans body. At the same time, while women have this decision to make by themselves if they choose to, women also hold all the cards when it comes to deciding to keep that child (even when the man feels that adoption may be more appropriate). Our system is flawed, we cater to the single parent more today than ever before. I'm not suggesting there aren't cases where either decision isn't justifiable, I'm simply saying that if a woman wants an abortion, it's her right, not his. If a woman chooses to keep the child, again, it's her right, not his AND he can be forced to pay child support as well - even if he believes the mother is unfit for raising the child.

Answer 5

all acceptable that is a complicated question to reply to that my SO and that i discuss each and every time we right here it. i trust that is a womans acceptable to have an abortion. being pregnant is a complicated element to bypass by potential of extremely if something poor befell to you to impregnate you. i do not trust that the girls accordingly must be punished yet given counseling for the poor issues that befell to her. the daddy i trust must be locked in penal complex and the most must be thrown away. i trust that a lady must have the right to come back to a decision what to do including her personal body yet i do not imagine some 14 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous woman must be allowed to bypass and get an abortion without her mum and dad understanding. and that i trust that any one in search of an abortion might want to ought to bypass by potential of a few variety of counseling first. i'm wiccan regardless of the indisputable fact that it has no wait on what i trust because i do not ignore that the toddler is clearly alive yet are you able to imagine the existence that some little toddler ought to have after being born into an family individuals even as the toddler's grandfather obviously has no problem with incest!!! who's to say the undesirable toddler wouldnt be the subsequent one pregnant by employing grandpa!

Answer 6

who are you to judge? Your not God and the only one that they have to answer to in the end is God. Not sister-in-law. If you don't wanna talk to him because of what he done then don't. It's your loss. You know that you shouldn't hold grudges either. They did what they thought needed to be done. What was best for the situation. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel like abortion should be used as a form of birth control but it's a womans choice. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

It is ultimately the woman's decision. The father cannot make her have the baby. Don't get me wrong. I agree abortion IS murder, but under the laws as they are right now it is the woman's decision.

Answer 8

I myself couldn't have an abortion, but I wouldn't judge someone who did. I don't put the "blame" on anyone. It's a personal decision.
I leave the judgement to God. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

Answer 9

If they both were in on the decision then it is equal responsibility.
I consider it very sad & do not doubt 1 day they will regret this action.
Let's hope they grow up & take more care in their sex life in the future.

Answer 10

I like the sticker that says "save the baby humans".