I read elsewhere that the marriage rate in the U.S. has dramatically declined.
2006-07-13 02:06:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the thing is, people go into marriage looking for what they can get out of it rather than what they can put into it. marriage needs to be a commitment that you work at. relationships don't just happen. we see marriages failing because each spouse is looking out for themselves, and as long as that works for both of them, they stay together. i don't doubt it has declined. the divorce rate is about 53% that's slightly more than one out of every two marriages failing. that's not a good rate, so people would rather just live together so if it fails they aren't out as much. but relationship is all about commitment, and marriage shows a commitment. i would hazard to say the "living together rate" would have just as high if not higher a failure rate as marriage.
2006-07-13 03:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by WVMagpie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think so, but both have to want the same thing! If one wants it to lead to marriage and the other does not then you will have trouble.
With the divorce rate climbing higher each year it does not surprise me that the marriage rate would decrease.
I wonder if the 1st time marriage rate has decreased or is it that people are not getting married for the 2nd 3rd 4th and 5th time?
I once worked with a lady that had been married 7 times but she only counted it as 6 because she married one guy two times.(stupid man)
2006-07-13 09:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this is happening too often nowadays, but I think I'm a conservative girl regarding marriage and cohabitation. i prefer, accept and chose MARRIAGE. I may accept cohabitation for some time before getting married, but once you are engaged and have decided the date you are getting married. Anyway, this is just my opinion.
2006-07-13 09:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a divorced 31 yr old, who was divorced before i turned 22, and every relationship since my divorce has been a "living together...maybe get married someday" relationship...Now, why you might ask. Is it because i have cold feet because my 1st marriage tanked?... or is it because every relationship i've been in since has seemed fine at the beginning...and gotten progressively worse?...Honestly...i'd have to say the latter of the two.
2006-07-13 10:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by bigjohninfla75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself live with my wife for about 11 years and had four kids with her before I marry her. It was a way that I was sure that we would be together till death do us apart. also I felt that my kids should be apart for the wedding this way they could understand the true meaning of love and what a real family is made of. May people married before having kids or after the having kids from other before.but that only make kids confuse hating the parents or becoming weapon in ownship not knowing if mom or dad love them and feeling like it was the birth of them that may had drawn the family apart. I now feel that my family would never feel that way if me or my wife felt that we couldn't no longer be together it would be clear to them that they could never be the problem. All I can say for those that live together and may have kids out of wedlock I'm not mad at you.Instead I send my blessing and pray that one you to will commit yourself to each other in the name of our father.Only then will you understand the meaning of true family.
2006-07-13 10:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by fingers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my favorite sayings "I'd rather live with someone and find out I can marry him than marry someone and find out I can't live with him."
2006-07-13 09:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋