Is it possible to forgive AND forget?

Question

Should I forget when wake up each day and see the effects.
How can I forgive when this person is not contrite/remorseful at all?
I see the damage and the person everyday of my life!!!!

Answer 1

Forgiveness is more for you than them. If you don't forgive it is going to eat away at you. You will probably never forget.

Answer 2

You can both forgive and forget. Many times is depends of what the question is all about. What the person did to you. Sometimes it is very hard to forget a thing, but you are still able to forgive the person. I mean that if you forgive you should forget, and get it out of the system. If not, you will be haunted of these thoughts for ever, and it want give you peace.
John

Answer 3

Forgive, yes if you can... To forget no way. If someone does something damaging to you, physically, emotionally, or mentally, then you will probably never forget it. Depending on what it is, you may see the results of what was done to you daily. Forgetting is not an option in may cases. To forgive is good, you do not want that holding you back and weighting on your shoulders.

Answer 4

i forgive, but i never forget. forgetting is letting the person think there will be no consequence for their actions. just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you go back to being all buddy-buddy. you still have to build trust again.

if the person isn't remorseful at all, still forgive them, because that's the right thing to do. it's shows you are a good hearted person. but don't forget what they've done. be cautious and don't trust that person with things they will break, even if that means not trusting them at all.

Answer 5

By forgiving, you are empowering yourself to not be angry and sad everyday for something that you cannot change. It has nothing to do with you saying 'oh...it's ok'. You're not really letting him off the hook, you're letting yourself move on from the rage. If you don't forgive, he's puninshing you every day without having to do a thing, cause you're the one effecting the punishment.

You cannot forget. But it can stop dominating your daily thoughts. If you do forget, then you might find yourself in a repeat performance of whatever it is that happened.

Answer 6

it really depends on what the person has done to you. you reserve all the rights to not forgive let alone forget. if he/she done something wrong to you that you find unacceptable then of course you have the right not to forgive and forget right? however, if you know that the person deserves to be forgiven (i.e. apologized, made up for it, etc.) then you can maybe consider forgiving. BUT it still doesn't mean you have to forget. if you forget then how are you going to learn from that one experience? let's say someone else were to do the same exact thing to you, how are you going to deal with it the right way if you forgot about the previous event? i don't mean to forgive and then not forgetting by always bringing up the situation causing problems, but what i mean is that you can remember the event and learn from it to protect yourself from future negative events similar to it

Answer 7

You can't forget while you are seeing that person... When you stop seeing the one responsible, it's also possible to forget as to forgive... Until then, unfortunately, no...

Answer 8

It's tricky, isn't it? We feel false acting out these things when they are contrary to how we really feel. But love and forgiveness are not a burdensome commands...they are formulas for success. They are not asking us to "feel" a certain way...they require an action...for our own benefit. Forgiveness is for you...just see how not doing so tears you up. Don't even try to forget...but with your actions, especially your speech, you can forgive, and let God deal with the dude.

Answer 9

You can NEVER forget, nor should you. But, you should always forgive if the person is sincere. If the person is NOT remorseful, than you CANNOT forgive him/her.

Answer 10

It's possible to forgive. But I don't think anyone really forgets.