he cheated on me 2 times last mos. and then he said when we had our frist child he was young and he don't have time to grow up so now he need this time to see what he want so now i am here with 3 kids and 1 on the way and is hurting and my older daughter is 9 and she is starting to hurt i don;t want her to see me hurt so i try to hide it but she see it all how can i get over him fast so i can help my kids hill?
2006-07-13 01:53:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he don't tell me he was not ready into he got caught cheating 2 days ago so that is why we had 3 more!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-13 16:18:08 · update #1
Sorry to hear this. Just try your best at being strong through the days with the children then at night you can have your cry. You wont be able to get over him fast as you two have alot to sort out and you have been together for years. Just try your best thats all you can do. Its going to be hard on you and the children. Talk to your daughter about how she feels as she might want to talk to you about it.This is a very difficult time for the whole family. But pull together and you will get through this and become stronger. Good Luck hope you and the children are goign to be happy soon.
2006-07-13 01:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry sweetie. I dont think there really is a fast way to get over a lost love if there is someone let me know to. Just hold your head up esspecially for the kids they need you now cause they are hurting to. Sounds like your hubby is being very selfish and you shouldnt have to put up with that.Dont try and hide your pain there is nothing to be ashamed of you didnt do anything wrong hes the one that decided he wanted to cheat and thats not right.Just be strong. Everything will work out and stay calm as much as possible because you are pregnant. If he decides not to come back if i were you i would be going down to the nearest child support office. Good luck to ya
2006-07-13 02:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing your kids need to come first and they need to know it's not their fault reasure them that they are still loved by both parents no matter what. For another why would you have 2 more kids with a guy like that if he said those things about the first what were you thinking in having 3 more with him if he wasn't even ready for the first one that was just asking for trouble. Its hard to get over someone who you have been with so long and that you share children so that makes things even harder I don't know what to say about you getting over him quickly all I can say is make your kids feelings come first. From the sound of things you are better off with out him if he is cheating and not ready to be a dad after getting you pregnant 4 times and shame on you for getting pregnant that many times with a guy who said with the first child he wasn't ready how could you bring 3 more into this kind of life we have enough fatherless children in the world. I am sorry I don't mean to sound so harsh. Just know that it does take time to heal but your kids NEED TO COME BEFORE YOUR FEELINGS.
2006-07-13 02:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jordan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! It hurts because you're human---nobody could go through all that and not be hurt. I think you can't hide it from your kids because they need your guidance and example to get through their own hurt, especially the 9 year old.
You have to be careful with her---you don't want her to grow up seeking approval from men in unfortunate ways.
2006-07-13 01:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Karen M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-13 01:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋