i am so confused what do i do i had divorce a month before and my ex husband calling me and want me back and on other side there is a guy who deeply love me and he knows about my past life aswell but the problem is i am not in a state of making decission they both wana be with me help me out of this please.
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2006-07-13 01:06:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You had a divorce a month ago now he wants you back. Why didnt he think of that before the divorce went through you guys could have fixed things and went through counceling.Obviously there was a reason serious enough to warrant divorce.Sweetie nothing has going to have changed in a months time. More than likley if you go back to him it will be the same old thing and you guys would end up just repeating everything you just went through. And your right you are probaly in no state of mind to make a serious desicion about this. I think the best thing for you to do instead of making a snap desicion is to take time for your self and weigh everything out.You dont want to get hurt again and you dont want to hurt this guy that deeply loves you either.Follow your heart and your gut.Your gut esspecially thats what i follow and im usually right when i do that. I wish you the best of luck
2006-07-13 01:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
WHich one do you truly want to be with. Do you think it will work with you and your husband? Whatever happened to cause you to get a divorce the first time, are you will or not to forgive and forget? And the other guy, you you like him as well, are you even considering being with him? The thing is, whether you ar eready or not you have to make a decision because if you let it go to o long the result can end very badly. Do not lead anyone on because that will amke things worse. The sooner you choose, the better. Accept and stick with whatever choice you made. If you end up with nothing it is a risk that comes with your situation.
2006-07-13 01:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by antisocialsweetheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Who says you need to make a decision at this exact moment? I would suggest you taking a break from both of these men...and do some real soul searching and discover what you really want.
Make a list of the pros and cons of both your ex-husband and the other man. Think back as to why you divorced in the first place.
2006-07-13 01:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is reason behind breakup with your ex husband and why he wants to come back to you. He might be doing it knowingly so that you should not able to meet your new friend so better wake-up.
coming to your second problem the new guy, do u know him better in the ways or else he may also dump you , better give them both some time and u also take some time to understand the situation and take wise decision which suits u better. Because this is life u have to stay With him for the rest of your life.
2006-07-13 01:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by anandK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forget about the ex husband if I were you, you guys are already divorced so the damage is done as far as trying to resolve your marriage. And life with your ex obviously wasn't that good if you divorced him. Start a new life with the new man who deeply loves you.
2006-07-13 01:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure this is an answer or not. My wife left me in Nov after 12yrs. I still love her and want her back. She is dating someone now and says its serious. I guess you have to look at why you left him in the first place. I have been confused too. I see all of the good times and love we used to have and I am lonely and not used to being single so that is part of why I want her back. I overlook the bad times we had and how she changed from the person I married and loved to who she is now. You need to really look at why you got divorced in the first place.
2006-07-13 01:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by scheib65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says that if a woman leaves her husband she should either stay alone or go back to her husband. It is not an easy answer because especially after a divorce we become more confused and lonely so we want to find that "Mr.Right". But I have finally learned that it is best to follow the Lord's way
2006-07-13 01:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ilovechristjesustheking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out! don't go back with your ex - what a waste of time and money to go through a divorce and then get together again?
You need to spend a whole lot of time by yourself, now. You are still grieving over the end of your marriage. Tell them both to back off.
If you don't have any kids with your ex, you can easily tell him to never bother you again and if he does, get a restraining order.
And who do YOU want to be with? If neither of them, then just hang out and WAIT.
2006-07-13 01:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not in a state to make a decision then do not make one. Date them both. Let time go by and then make a decision when you are ready. Dont let either guy pressure you and remember the reasons why your marriage ended in divorce. Chances are they have not gone away. Use your head- esp. if there are children involved.
2006-07-13 01:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let them both know that you are not ready to date or make a decision just yet. You need time to heal and catch your breath. Some time to sort things out and put them into perspective.
If these guys love you, they both will understand. But when you are clear, to keep you from further confusion, choose one of them. Otherwise, you set youself up for more continuted frustration and confustion.
Best wishes!
2006-07-13 01:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋